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Welcome to Arena Blaze
September 09, 2010

Overwhelming New Adventure

Contributed by: herplaytoy ~ August 04, 2010

It wasn't more than three weeks ago that my Wife and i discovered our hidden desire to have a Dom/sub relationship. We've been married for 26 years and i have spent most of that time trying to figure out how to provide her with the relationship, attention, and pleasures that she deserves.

i am still not sure if this is what will make Her completely happy, but i do know that after reading your web site, playing around with a scene, communicating like never before, and of course some better than average pleasures for Her, She has a more than healthy interest in being a Dom. However, She is finding it very hard to overcome Her passive and kind-hearted nature.

It seems to be that part of the issue stems from being overwhelmed. There is just so much to being a Dom...and little for a sub....that She can't grasp it all and reverts back to trying to please me. Even the Scenes for Play section here seem to be overwhelming Her. She needs Her "inner bitch" badly and i was wondering if anyone had some helpful insight as to how to help my Mistress blossom?

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Help, We're both Dominant

Contributed by: Mistress Eryn ~ August 03, 2010

I am having an massive issue over control in the bedroom. I am a dominatrix and a sadist, my friend (former fiance) is dominant but not into pain at all--or bondage, degradation/humiliation, and has flat-out refused for me to ever use a strap-on with him. I have respected his wishes not to cause him pain because he's not into it...but the neglect of an entire side of my nature was one of the contributing factors for why I broke the engagement. He definitely wants to marry me, but I don't want to spend my life unsatisfied.

The simple fact is I NEED to dominate; he knew what I was before we started going out--I told him, and I've never pretended to be anything else. I thought I could make it work just by doing a little bondage and playing on the psychological aspects of being restrained--I wouldn't have to hurt him/humiliate or do anything else to get my 'fix', and having someone with an equally powerful will submit to mine would possibly make up the difference. I even offered an equal exchange--every time I tied him up, he could tie me up next.

He didn't go for it.

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Caught my slave/husband playing with himself.. What shall I do?

Contributed by: Mistressbarbara ~ July 26, 2010

I keep him in chastity unless of course I want him out, along with his sexy lingerie. I have sex with him 3-4 times a week, but only let him orgasm once, if he's been good all week, and the other 3-4 days he pleasing me with his tounge.. About a week ago I went to meet my girlfriend for breakfast, but before leaving I put a collar round his neck and tied it to the headboard, and rope round his balls and tied them to the foot board, and left him unchastized (trusting or not thinking he would be bad). I left the house, but had forgotten my phone. I returned not even 5 minutes later, walked into the bedroom and there he was, hand round "my" cock!

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Mother & Son

Contributed by: MIstreSSBell ~ July 22, 2010

I love your site btw,

More and more I am asked for the mother and son role play.
I am naturally bossy and a mother! So this comes quiet easy to role play but I feel I can do better with this!

Hmmm all about control....As I am typing I am thinking, but any suggestions would be appreciated

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Long Distance Femdom

Contributed by: MistressSamantha ~ July 19, 2010

My pet is in the military and finds himself out to sea for 3-6 months of the year. Access to communication is limited; emails are monitored by the government and I may only receive phone calls from him intermittently when he is in port. Does anyone have ideas on how we can maintain a femdom relationship while he's on the boat? What sorts of things can he do to to prove his loyalty while he's gone (and how do I monitor it)? What can I do to remind him who's in charge? I can send letters, but I'm at a loss for ideas. Help me please, ladies and subs!

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Bondage?

Contributed by: LadySabrina ~ July 16, 2010

New Domme here, just starting out. What role, if any, does bondage play in the D/s relationship?

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Cruelty

Contributed by: jam7 ~ June 21, 2010

Does cruelty have to be a part of being a Mistress/Dominatrix?

I am a sub by nature, but my husband would like me to dominate him. I don't have a problem spanking him, pinching playfully, but the idea of out right cruelty does nothing for me and I don't think that's what he is looking for either although I will discuss this with him shortly.

I guess what I am really asking is...do you have to be mean? I have looked at many sites, this one being by far the best and most helpful, but haven't read anything about the idea of "light" dominance. I know it's really about what you and your partner want and are looking for, but any answers, suggestions and tips will be greatly appreciated.

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New at this but so totally old to it too!!

Contributed by: MissKitty013 ~ June 21, 2010

OK I am new at being a "Miss" (Mistress or Ma'am make me feel old so I have INSISTED he calls me Miss)

BUT he is wanting to be more of my cuckhold slave and really wants to be my enuch slave.
I love the attention and all that - but afraid of taking on a sub/slave full time....what do all of you think?

Thanks fellow Ma'am's or Miss's or Madam Wonderfuls for any help you can give me.
And you must beg forgiveness first sub's before answering...

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Making fantasy into Reality

Contributed by: Dizzylizzy0420 ~ June 10, 2010

I've fantasized about dominating a man/woman for a long time, but actually doing it is harder than I expected. I know what to say, do, and wear but I can't make the words come out. Sometimes I chuckle a little from nerves. I can't be mean. Any advice on how to get over this.

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He wants forced feminization...

Contributed by: Lady Gray ~ May 31, 2010

Hello ladies! My sub recently confessed to me that his greatest sexual desire is to be forced into wearing women's panties and corsets.

I am into several levels of domination, but this idea has never occurred to me, and although I would never admit it to my pet, it intimidates me. I am still very reluctant to the idea because it sounds so foreign.

Despite this, I would like to overcome this perception to give my sub new levels of humiliation. Were any other of you Mistresses intimidated by this at first? How did you get over it?

This website is fabulous!
Lady Gray

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Safe Sane and Consensual Blackmailing

Contributed by: Miss Sadi Stick ~ May 24, 2010

My puppy is into being blackmailed, so he can't weasel out of being my slave. The first time we met I asked to see his license to see if he was who he said he was. I then took it to a copier and copied it, telling him he could never get away from me. I also threatened to put up �lost dog� posters around his town if he misbehaved.

I�m going to take lots of pictures of him in the new panties I will graciously give him. Haven�t decided on what yet, perhaps just an old pair of mine; if I feel he�s earned it.

What other blackmail idea�s do you have, that while scare him, are safe, sane and consensual. I am not afraid to do it, I just want to do it right.

Miss Sadi Stick

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Fantasy to reality?

Contributed by: choreboy ~ May 17, 2010

Judging from the huge and growing market for femdom porn sites, many millions of men have fantasies about taking the subordinate role with strong women. Of those millions, a tiny handful have actually experienced love or sex in which both people acknowledge that the woman is dominant. (I'm guessing.)

Women, should the rest of those guys give up? What would it take to make it both safe and attractive for more women to try on the pants? What gave you the courage to be assertive and on top in your relationship? Do you think our culture is changing in ways that make this a more appealing, more possible way to be for you?

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Dressing the part and getting in the mood.

Contributed by: Miss_Kitty ~ April 27, 2010

I am really new to the Domme/slave relationship and so far it has gone well.

I have a very submissive slave who is willing and patient with me.

The only problem I have is getting in to the "mood" as I am submissive by nature, and I become Mistress for my boyfriends pleasure. To me being a Domme is mostly about the "dressing up" since I see it as role-playing.

Do you have any tips on any other ways of getting in the mood instead of just dressing up, since I would like to be Mistress more often to fulfill my slaves needs.

Mistress_Magenta
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Keeping it going? Make him wait?

Contributed by: control ~ April 24, 2010

I am new to this, but having a really good time with it. My sub and I have had several fun sessions of bondage, orgasm denial and some very good punishments, which we both enjoyed. Yesterday I had been teasing his cock all day and he was very hopeful for the evening.

I am a professional athlete and very physically active, and come last night, to be honest, just wanted to sleep. However my sub had been very well behaved, and really wanted this, and since I do care about him I wanted him to have what he had been waiting so patiently for. We had a session last night that was 'so-so'. He says he still had fun, but I don't like to give a bad performance.

My question is, in a situation like this, should I just have made him wait, or are there some tricks for giving your pet a well-deserved reward when you are not feeling like a full-on scene, without letting him forget who is boss?

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Intimate Evenings

Contributed by: miss sara ~ April 23, 2010

Ok ladies, here�s something I like to do with my man some evenings when I�m feeling a little frisky!

The below ideas aren't overly dominant by the standards of this site, but it's a good guide for couples who are otherwise vanilla in their everyday lives to try out.

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Brand New, Excited But Scared! (Strap-on and verbal humiliation?)

Contributed by: maitresse ~ April 22, 2010

I'd never really thought about domination/submission until I met my current partner, who told me straight off that he was a sub. I'm one of life's pleasers, so I knew straight away I'd go along with it, and the more I've been thinking about it the more excited I've got at the idea of being a Domme!

But I really lack confidence. So far all I've done is issue a couple of commands in the bedroom, nothing particularly Domme-ish, although I've been much more confident during our text-sex sessions! So much so that I confessed I told him that I'd like to dominate him with a strap-on, which he is very enthusiastic about!

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Slave Names ?

Contributed by: Miss_Kitty ~ April 21, 2010

Being new to the scene and embracing my inner bitch, I have come up with a name for myself being the Domme.

What are good names for your sub?

I find the term "slave" very impersonal and I would like to name my sub to make it more personal for us. Any ideas would be lovely.

Yours,
Miss Kitty

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Chores for Him

Contributed by: Miss K ~ March 26, 2010

I am a new mistress and my slave loves it when I give him slutty and exciting "chores" to do. One night he was playing poker with his buddies, and I made him wear panties to the game. That really excited him, which in turn really excited me.

I am having trouble though with coming up with new chores for him to do. Any suggestions? I just want to keep it exciting, especially since I am so new to this.

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Dominating someone new

Contributed by: MsSofia ~ March 23, 2010

Dear Mistress Blaze,

I met someone and the conversation went to his fantasy....being dominated.

I found your site, awesome by the way, never really entertained the idea before, but now, I really want to do it. My question, can you really dominate someone the first time you take it into the bedroom?

Isn't it trust based, and complete surrender, can this be achieved with someone you don't really know?

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New at This -- Need some confidence!

Contributed by: princess stess ~ March 03, 2010

I am new at this. My partner and I have dabbled a bit, though I am a total softy at heart and don't want to hurt him. I have come from a background of abusive relationships, and I struggle with the fact that he trusts me totally and I can do anything I want. I know he adores me, but I am uncomfortable with maybe doing it wrong? He has never done it before, but wants to and I want to make his fantasy a reality, but not too sure about how to go about it, surrenderiing the inner bitch!!

Being a pleaser at heart, I struggle with the dominating role, but soooo want to. Any advice for a newbie? Just wanna take it slow till I get my confidence. I would love to be the one in control, but don't want to stuff it up by only satisfying my needs....advice please...we're both new....

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