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June 19, 2013

What to do? Need more ideas...

Contributed by: Miss_Kitty ~ February 26, 2011

So I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am a Dominant, and according to my worthless slave I am extremely good at it.

Now I'm stuck for stuff to do....
I've had him tied and made to worship pussy, smacked, spanked, whipped, made to wear a hood and tell me how much he adores Me; but what now?
I enjoy humiliating my slave and making him feel worthless but I cannot think of any ideas to take this further... to push both of our boundaries.

Do any of you Mistresses/Godesses/Queens have any ideas of how to push these boundaries but still keep it safe, sane and consensual and without taking it out in to public just yet?

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Embracing the "Inner Bitch"

Contributed by: Neko101 ~ February 25, 2011

Ok.. Here's my dilemma.

Like many women before me, I was raised with the belief that the male should be dominate. My pet and I have been experimenting with D/s for almost a year now. (On and off because we live in separate states.) So whenever I see him. I try out something.

The last time I saw him, it wasn't so great. We finally tried out a full out scene, and it was a complete and utter fail, despite all the reading and prepping I did. The problem is, I'm just not confident enough. I have always had a low self esteem, and been somewhat overweight, and never comfortable in my body. I've been finding it almost impossible to "embrace my Inner Bitch" like everything I've read has told me to do.

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I am shy but I can feel it!

Contributed by: MsAlyJones ~ February 23, 2011

My best friend is wanting to become a Mistress.

I've always found it interesting anyway and we could step into this realm together. So, very recently we have started to research the art of the Female Domme. I'm not sure about her, but this question is about me. So. From what little *I* have absorbed in my quest to understand, I have become even more increasingly intrigued and decided I wanted to do more than just research...

I related to quite a few stories from Mistresses about the little hints that pointed to their inner beauty and power before they realized who they were destined to become. I related but I am so shy! Its not til my blood gets stirred and boiled that I can see "her" inside. Then its as obvious as the nose on my face. I am very glad I have researched this with my friend but I am not sure how to embrace that bitch I see deep down. Maybe this isn't for me since I am unfortunately so shy. However I would really appreciate feedback from you knowledgeable Mistresses and those with experience, since I have total lack of it! Maybe I am not the only one with this problem.

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I Tricked my chastized sissy husband!!

Contributed by: Mistressbarbara ~ February 07, 2011

Going on a year or so, while eating lunch at a posh bar/grill downtown, i met a "lady".. We chatted over a couple cocktails for a few hours.. We exchanged phone numbers and became friends.. Over the first few weeks she learned of my relationship, and i learned of her gender.. I of course am Domme, with my sissy slave/husband, chastised 24/7 (unless i want him unlocked for my pleasure) and daily wearing of lingerie.. lol.. , She is a transsexual, very passable.. she looks like a genetic woman..

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New couple - Worried if We're Pleasing each other

Contributed by: Wwah82 ~ February 06, 2011

Hi, myself and my Dom(long term girlfriend) have decided to try out the domination scenario and I was wondering how to start, we have one successful night and the rest has been, let's just say nervous!! We both would like to get in on this, as i think she deserves to be worshiped....we have bought everything we need, outfits, restraints for doors, under-bed restraints, whips, handcuffs blindfolds, the lot!! We even set up a room upstairs we could play in, complete with dungeon look!! Also my Dom really wants to make me orgasm as many times a She desires, but i am very worried that i will not be able to perform, which only adds to our worries.

Our problem is we just cannot find the rhythm, we are constantly worried if the other is enjoying it, and we are getting very frustrated, I just want to please my Dom!!!

Any advice and help would be greatly appreciated, please please help!!

Yours faithfully
wwah

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How to Dominate a Domme? or just Deal with Dommes?

Contributed by: Arrogant_Miss ~ February 06, 2011

How to deal with other dommes?

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Unaware Mistress

Contributed by: VioletStrix ~ February 04, 2011

Dear Doms and subs,
My wife and I have been married for several years and I am afraid the sexual spark is slipping away. I am a very submissive woman and my wife is very dominant in our relationship, though I am not sure she knows just how much control she has. To an outsider it appears that we have a sub/Dom relationship and I have even been asked if I am a trophy wife. Publicly and privately I serve her, much to my pleasure. In addition to tending to her everyday needs I look after the the house, wash her hair and body (when asked), take care of her nails, massage her after long days, and even sit at her feet (though she has never asked, it just feels natural). However, her dominance does not transfer to our waning sex life. I am not sure if she even knows about the sub/Dom life. I seem to be stuck in sexual denial without her realizing what she is doing to me. How can I get my mistress to pick up her reigns?

Thank you in advance for any suggestions,

Violet

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A Tale of Two Slaves

Contributed by: slave6 ~ February 03, 2011

My Mistress has, not just me for Her slave, but another slave too, and She just loooooves to have us �entertain� Her. She has Her immaculate way of pleasing and disciplining us just enough to keep us willing to do anything for Her, and I do mean anything.
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New Domme / Sub seeks old relationship

Contributed by: LadyL1231 ~ February 03, 2011

I am a brand new Domme and I've me a well experienced sub. He is doing a wonderful job of telling me about his last relationship. I am afraid that he is trying to get that relationship back with someone else instead of moving on. How can I train both him and myself at the same time?

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(Cheating submissive) Unusal situation - I think

Contributed by: Miss20201 ~ February 02, 2011

So, I am completely new to the D/s relationship. I have a submissive man who SAYS he wants to be dominated by me, but he is still in a relationship with his Mistress. He says he's not happy, not sure if he wants to remain with her, BUT despite the fact that he expresses interest in serving me, he has managed to NOT carry through on various requests I have made of him, over the course of several weeks.

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Wheres the love at? Racial question regarding Submissives

Contributed by: Dwayne ~ February 01, 2011

My name is Dwayne and i'm a 36yr old African American male that has been interested and fairly involved with the bdsm lifestyle and d/s for about a few years. And what i noticed on both sides of the black and white spectrum is a double standard for black males. Even some of the black males themselves unknowingly discriminate against themselves by viewing this lifestyle as something for weak people if you identify as a sub or its something for "the white man". ...

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Punishment, write Mistress a poem

Contributed by: Relinquish ~ January 28, 2011

Mistress,
Before I sleep, I think of you
As I awake I think you,
During my day, I think of you
Your authority guides me,
Your control steers me
Your discipline directs me to what I strive to be

Mistress,
Owner of my body, Director of my spirit
I am thankful that I serve you
I hope to honor you in servitude
Submit to you in thought, word and deed
Mold me, transform me into the expression of your desires

Mistress
I am your property,
I will work so that I may reflect your intentions
Use me, as you see fit, so that I may learn your ways

Mistress
In gratitude I serve,
In thankfulness I submit
In grace, I accept my punishment

perro

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