It’s really wonderful to know that there are always women who loves domination and who would like to rule their partners from everywhere in the world.
I’d sincerely like to make you all a question – or two questions, actually if that’s ok:
1) How did you find out that you like being dominant? Your first experiences?
2) Why do you think, as dominant, that there are still so few dominant women in the world? (Because of education, fear, social criticism, traditions, patriarchal societies, religion, bad information and stereotypes, etc ? )
I’d really appreciate hearing from you and knowing different points of views. ^^
My boyfriend recently told me that he has always wanted to have a woman dominate him. I was somewhat hesitant at first because I enjoy being submissive, but decided to look into it nonetheless. I was completely unsure of what to say or do, but this website has helped me tremendously! There just seems to be one problem...
He enjoys the consequences just as much (if not more) than the pleasure. I feel like I don't really have control because even when I punish him, he likes it and can ultimately decide what HE wants, as opposed to what I want him to want (if that makes sense). Any thoughts on this would be GREATLY appreciated!
I am wondering what are your thoughts on the Dominatrix's male counterpart, the Dominator. I have been fulfilling this role for a few subs over the past year, and believe I am getting good at it, to the point where i would like to pursue this as a casual career. I am quite heterosexual but this is not a problem for me.
What I am wondering is how do you feel about male's taking this dominant position over subs as opposed to women? the men I am working with are not gay either, but they prefer me to some of the better equipped Dominatrixes in the area. I'm just wondering if you have encountered many other Dominators, and what your thoughts on the subject are.
It started out as a normal marriage. I met her at a bar one night, she was with one of my friends. She was so attractive I could not keep my eyes off of her, something my friend noticed but didn't seem to mind. Later in the evening he asked me if I thought his date was hot, a little embarrassed I said yes and apologized for staring at her. He laughed and told me she had been with just about everyone else at the bar and had a reputation as being a total slut so he just wanted to have a good time with her and I was welcome to her after he was done.
I was disappointed that she was like that but later in the evening my friend left with her and when they came back I could tell they had been outside having sex. He got drunk and ignored her after that but she didn't seem to mind as she went outside with another guy. I followed and watched as they went into the back of her SUV. I went up to the window and looked in, she saw me and smiled as he pounded away at her.
So I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am a Dominant, and according to my worthless slave I am extremely good at it.
Now I'm stuck for stuff to do....
I've had him tied and made to worship pussy, smacked, spanked, whipped, made to wear a hood and tell me how much he adores Me; but what now?
I enjoy humiliating my slave and making him feel worthless but I cannot think of any ideas to take this further... to push both of our boundaries.
Do any of you Mistresses/Godesses/Queens have any ideas of how to push these boundaries but still keep it safe, sane and consensual and without taking it out in to public just yet?
Like many women before me, I was raised with the belief that the male should be dominate. My pet and I have been experimenting with D/s for almost a year now. (On and off because we live in separate states.) So whenever I see him. I try out something.
The last time I saw him, it wasn't so great. We finally tried out a full out scene, and it was a complete and utter fail, despite all the reading and prepping I did. The problem is, I'm just not confident enough. I have always had a low self esteem, and been somewhat overweight, and never comfortable in my body. I've been finding it almost impossible to "embrace my Inner Bitch" like everything I've read has told me to do.
I've always found it interesting anyway and we could step into this realm together. So, very recently we have started to research the art of the Female Domme. I'm not sure about her, but this question is about me. So. From what little *I* have absorbed in my quest to understand, I have become even more increasingly intrigued and decided I wanted to do more than just research...
I related to quite a few stories from Mistresses about the little hints that pointed to their inner beauty and power before they realized who they were destined to become. I related but I am so shy! Its not til my blood gets stirred and boiled that I can see "her" inside. Then its as obvious as the nose on my face. I am very glad I have researched this with my friend but I am not sure how to embrace that bitch I see deep down. Maybe this isn't for me since I am unfortunately so shy. However I would really appreciate feedback from you knowledgeable Mistresses and those with experience, since I have total lack of it! Maybe I am not the only one with this problem.
Going on a year or so, while eating lunch at a posh bar/grill downtown, i met a "lady".. We chatted over a couple cocktails for a few hours.. We exchanged phone numbers and became friends.. Over the first few weeks she learned of my relationship, and i learned of her gender.. I of course am Domme, with my sissy slave/husband, chastised 24/7 (unless i want him unlocked for my pleasure) and daily wearing of lingerie.. lol.. , She is a transsexual, very passable.. she looks like a genetic woman..
Hi, myself and my Dom(long term girlfriend) have decided to try out the domination scenario and I was wondering how to start, we have one successful night and the rest has been, let's just say nervous!! We both would like to get in on this, as i think she deserves to be worshiped....we have bought everything we need, outfits, restraints for doors, under-bed restraints, whips, handcuffs blindfolds, the lot!! We even set up a room upstairs we could play in, complete with dungeon look!! Also my Dom really wants to make me orgasm as many times a She desires, but i am very worried that i will not be able to perform, which only adds to our worries.
Our problem is we just cannot find the rhythm, we are constantly worried if the other is enjoying it, and we are getting very frustrated, I just want to please my Dom!!!
Any advice and help would be greatly appreciated, please please help!!
Dear Doms and subs,
My wife and I have been married for several years and I am afraid the sexual spark is slipping away. I am a very submissive woman and my wife is very dominant in our relationship, though I am not sure she knows just how much control she has. To an outsider it appears that we have a sub/Dom relationship and I have even been asked if I am a trophy wife. Publicly and privately I serve her, much to my pleasure. In addition to tending to her everyday needs I look after the the house, wash her hair and body (when asked), take care of her nails, massage her after long days, and even sit at her feet (though she has never asked, it just feels natural). However, her dominance does not transfer to our waning sex life. I am not sure if she even knows about the sub/Dom life. I seem to be stuck in sexual denial without her realizing what she is doing to me. How can I get my mistress to pick up her reigns?