I am a sub by nature, but my lover is a sub too. Even though he is normally controlling and an anarchist, his favorite line is, "*eff* the system" and "no one can make me do anything I don't want to do."
We switch roles sometimes. I thought for sure he would love to dominate me, but he likes it when I'm in charge. Actually it's fun and I like being in charge. But it's just that I'm really timid and shy around him, so I tend to freak out. I need to know how to be more confident and what exactly to do. I don't know what he will want or like or if he thinks that it,s weird, and that's what scares me.
Upon returning from our vacation, We/we settled back to where we'd been before, with one exception. I answered well written ads from men who wanted to be dominated on line. Occasionally I'd find genuine, articulate, attractive men who enjoyed having a Goddess (their term) control how and when they came. The Mistress would absolutely insist on abstinence until Her slave pleaded to release. Then, Mistress might send a provocative, but tasteful photo, with long, blond hair covering Her face. The more power they gave Me, the more I demanded from them. I had a good looking, 40 year old man, pulling off the road during a long, congested commute so he could protect expensive suit pants from being ruined by semen he needed to release. another was downloading a picture on an international flight when I gave him permission to cum. The slave made his way to the bathroom, donned a condom, returned to his seat, and opened his laptop, which was covering his hands. While viewing the photo, My sub stroked himself until he came.
I am new to the Dom/sub thing and I am getting married. I love my husband and he is perfect. Our sex is even good, but I need something he won't give me, so I have a f--- friend who I have always kept around for sex when I needed it. This friend and I dabble in BDSM, even switching roles from time to time. I like the whole separate life excitement thing it does it for me. My friend is a kink.
We text when we're feeling frisky and one day he just throws this out there...."I want you to lick my asshole, is that going to be a problem?" wow. Well, my mantra is try everything in life once, so I didn't shoot him down. What I'm looking for is some advice about getting into ass play with a guy who wants to be probed but not *f*ed with a strap on. What are my limits? How do I push his?
I am 19 years of age and I just started dating this guy who I REALLY like.. My whole sexual life before has been completely normal. I have no real fantasies or anything like that because I.. well I don't know. I've never explored anything else. He really wants me to dominate him and he's even given me things to say to him but I giggle and get all shy and just get quiet.
I am very comfortable around him otherwise but when it comes to me being dominant, I almost get embarrassed! I do get turned on when he dominates me but I want to learn to break out of my shell and do that for him. He doesn't like pain but I noticed he wants me to talk to him like a lower human. I just freeze up because I don't know what to say..I'm afraid I'll sound stupid, even though he promises not to laugh! Please help!
I guess it started innocently enough, in the form of role playing. I was in My late thirties. My lover and I would engage in different, provocative, harmless, scenarios. he liked Me as a Dom and We/we had some fun with it. As time went on, he encouraged Me to take My outfit and attitude out of the house. It began predictably with house parties. Next, came All Hallows Eve dance club celebrations. The dresses became shorter, the boots taller, and the tops skimpier. I began to add props such as steel handcuffs, a riding crop, dog collar, and shackles. My Mistress "costume" received greater attention with each appearance. The lover enjoyed it, and, frankly, so did I. Having men, completely unknown to Me, pay homage was becoming interesting and sometimes exciting.
My pet wants me to pee on him. I am not just talking sitting on him and peeing -- he wants to be eating me and then have me pee on him. He saw this on a Dominatrix movie and was totally turned on by it. I am new to being a Dominatrix and hew is new to this as well.
We are just now feeling out our boundaries and I am still trying to figure out how to whip him without hurting him and now he wants me to pee on him? Can you give me any advice on how to do this...I am willing to try anything once but just a little embarrassed about doing it.
I finally seem to be coming into my own as a dominatrix. I've been at this properly only a few months, having been a slave for many years. I have a slave now- we're bf/gf and treat this very respectfully- and it's a bit tricky for me to navigate. Due to my circumstances, we're not sexual yet.
Looking over some of the things others do, I find most of them are things I have no interest in. I'm not into chasity, or feminising- I won't make him wear women's lingerie. I'm more into bondage, cruelty, humiliation, and disclipline. Nothing too extreme- I know how it feels!- but not much of what I see here.
My question is this: What can I do with my slave that will satisfy me, but doesn't take us into sexual realms? And how can I be sure what we do as mistress/slave will have a minimal effect on us as bf/gf? I haven't really done anything with him yet, because I'm worried that I it might foul up our emotional relationship. Any advice would be so well appreciated, slaves and Dommes alike!
I spent my pre-teen (from 9) and teen years as a forced slave in abusive relationships. In case you're asking why so young, it was my stepfather's initial doing. I have been raised as a slave. At 16, I finally walked away from the last abusive relationship I was ever in.
I'm now 20, and found someone I really connect with. His name is Safire, and he knows me very well. Internally- emotionally and spiritually- we connect. I happened upon Arena Blaze one day, and browsed. That's when I decided I'd want to try domination for the pain. In life, I'm a vibrant, dominative person.
Here's my problem: I'm terrified of telling my boyfriend of two years.
“Now here’s what you’re going to do, boy. You’re going to get me a glass of Merlot, put on some music - make it Enigma - then go upstairs and bring me your cock-ring, collar and leash. Now be quick about it.”
“Yes Ma’am; gladly,” he replied as I sat and watched him go into the kitchen. My purple panties actually looked pretty good on his nice ass, and I just loved the way the head of his cock stuck out a few inches above the fancy lace top, visibly oozing copious amounts of precum.
“Here’s your wine, Mistress Kim,“ he said as he handed me the crystal balloon. My eyes couldn’t help but follow him as he walked over to the CD player and started the disk, his lean body moving with purpose. Something about that droning beat and echoing chant really does it for me. He was upstairs for only a moment, and then back down with the items I required.
“Alright now slave, turn on the video camera, face it, and give me a little strip-tease. Make it sexy,” I told him.