I am 19 years of age and I just started dating this guy who I REALLY like.. My whole sexual life before has been completely normal. I have no real fantasies or anything like that because I.. well I don't know. I've never explored anything else. He really wants me to dominate him and he's even given me things to say to him but I giggle and get all shy and just get quiet.
I am very comfortable around him otherwise but when it comes to me being dominant, I almost get embarrassed! I do get turned on when he dominates me but I want to learn to break out of my shell and do that for him. He doesn't like pain but I noticed he wants me to talk to him like a lower human. I just freeze up because I don't know what to say..I'm afraid I'll sound stupid, even though he promises not to laugh! Please help!
I guess it started innocently enough, in the form of role playing. I was in My late thirties. My lover and I would engage in different, provocative, harmless, scenarios. he liked Me as a Dom and We/we had some fun with it. As time went on, he encouraged Me to take My outfit and attitude out of the house. It began predictably with house parties. Next, came All Hallows Eve dance club celebrations. The dresses became shorter, the boots taller, and the tops skimpier. I began to add props such as steel handcuffs, a riding crop, dog collar, and shackles. My Mistress "costume" received greater attention with each appearance. The lover enjoyed it, and, frankly, so did I. Having men, completely unknown to Me, pay homage was becoming interesting and sometimes exciting.
My pet wants me to pee on him. I am not just talking sitting on him and peeing -- he wants to be eating me and then have me pee on him. He saw this on a Dominatrix movie and was totally turned on by it. I am new to being a Dominatrix and hew is new to this as well.
We are just now feeling out our boundaries and I am still trying to figure out how to whip him without hurting him and now he wants me to pee on him? Can you give me any advice on how to do this...I am willing to try anything once but just a little embarrassed about doing it.
I finally seem to be coming into my own as a dominatrix. I've been at this properly only a few months, having been a slave for many years. I have a slave now- we're bf/gf and treat this very respectfully- and it's a bit tricky for me to navigate. Due to my circumstances, we're not sexual yet.
Looking over some of the things others do, I find most of them are things I have no interest in. I'm not into chasity, or feminising- I won't make him wear women's lingerie. I'm more into bondage, cruelty, humiliation, and disclipline. Nothing too extreme- I know how it feels!- but not much of what I see here.
My question is this: What can I do with my slave that will satisfy me, but doesn't take us into sexual realms? And how can I be sure what we do as mistress/slave will have a minimal effect on us as bf/gf? I haven't really done anything with him yet, because I'm worried that I it might foul up our emotional relationship. Any advice would be so well appreciated, slaves and Dommes alike!
I spent my pre-teen (from 9) and teen years as a forced slave in abusive relationships. In case you're asking why so young, it was my stepfather's initial doing. I have been raised as a slave. At 16, I finally walked away from the last abusive relationship I was ever in.
I'm now 20, and found someone I really connect with. His name is Safire, and he knows me very well. Internally- emotionally and spiritually- we connect. I happened upon Arena Blaze one day, and browsed. That's when I decided I'd want to try domination for the pain. In life, I'm a vibrant, dominative person.
Here's my problem: I'm terrified of telling my boyfriend of two years.
“Now here’s what you’re going to do, boy. You’re going to get me a glass of Merlot, put on some music - make it Enigma - then go upstairs and bring me your cock-ring, collar and leash. Now be quick about it.”
“Yes Ma’am; gladly,” he replied as I sat and watched him go into the kitchen. My purple panties actually looked pretty good on his nice ass, and I just loved the way the head of his cock stuck out a few inches above the fancy lace top, visibly oozing copious amounts of precum.
“Here’s your wine, Mistress Kim,“ he said as he handed me the crystal balloon. My eyes couldn’t help but follow him as he walked over to the CD player and started the disk, his lean body moving with purpose. Something about that droning beat and echoing chant really does it for me. He was upstairs for only a moment, and then back down with the items I required.
“Alright now slave, turn on the video camera, face it, and give me a little strip-tease. Make it sexy,” I told him.
It’s really wonderful to know that there are always women who loves domination and who would like to rule their partners from everywhere in the world.
I’d sincerely like to make you all a question – or two questions, actually if that’s ok:
1) How did you find out that you like being dominant? Your first experiences?
2) Why do you think, as dominant, that there are still so few dominant women in the world? (Because of education, fear, social criticism, traditions, patriarchal societies, religion, bad information and stereotypes, etc ? )
I’d really appreciate hearing from you and knowing different points of views. ^^
My boyfriend recently told me that he has always wanted to have a woman dominate him. I was somewhat hesitant at first because I enjoy being submissive, but decided to look into it nonetheless. I was completely unsure of what to say or do, but this website has helped me tremendously! There just seems to be one problem...
He enjoys the consequences just as much (if not more) than the pleasure. I feel like I don't really have control because even when I punish him, he likes it and can ultimately decide what HE wants, as opposed to what I want him to want (if that makes sense). Any thoughts on this would be GREATLY appreciated!
I am wondering what are your thoughts on the Dominatrix's male counterpart, the Dominator. I have been fulfilling this role for a few subs over the past year, and believe I am getting good at it, to the point where i would like to pursue this as a casual career. I am quite heterosexual but this is not a problem for me.
What I am wondering is how do you feel about male's taking this dominant position over subs as opposed to women? the men I am working with are not gay either, but they prefer me to some of the better equipped Dominatrixes in the area. I'm just wondering if you have encountered many other Dominators, and what your thoughts on the subject are.
It started out as a normal marriage. I met her at a bar one night, she was with one of my friends. She was so attractive I could not keep my eyes off of her, something my friend noticed but didn't seem to mind. Later in the evening he asked me if I thought his date was hot, a little embarrassed I said yes and apologized for staring at her. He laughed and told me she had been with just about everyone else at the bar and had a reputation as being a total slut so he just wanted to have a good time with her and I was welcome to her after he was done.
I was disappointed that she was like that but later in the evening my friend left with her and when they came back I could tell they had been outside having sex. He got drunk and ignored her after that but she didn't seem to mind as she went outside with another guy. I followed and watched as they went into the back of her SUV. I went up to the window and looked in, she saw me and smiled as he pounded away at her.