Here's my problem. My subs desire to be controlled or continue with the scene "goes completely flat" after an orgasm. We constantly find our play stunted by an untimely orgasm. Or even worse too much time goes by without an orgasm.
Dear Fellow Dommes,
I'm 19 years old, and have a wonderful guy friend whom has expressed his past experiences and how he loves being sub. I have told him my secret dream of being a Domme -- he LOVES it! I've read a lot from this website hoping to learn as much as I can. And I feel like I'm in the right place trying to learn about my inner bitch.
I've been friends with a man for four years & we started hooking up casually (safely, but casually) about a year and a half ago. Shortly after our first physical encounter, he asked me to discipline him and a new phase of our relationship opened up.
I have serious feelings for him, as he does for me, yet we're not dating. As I told him, I wouldn't do this if I didn't care for him, and I really enjoy our sessions, as does he. Obviously, developing a dom/sub relationship requires a LOT of trust, but how do I approach him about formalizing our relationship (as in full exclusivity?)
He's never submitted to anyone else & I've never dominated anyone else, yet we have both had relations with others since we aren't gf/bf. I want to take our friendship/hookup/playtime to the level of gf/bf, but how? Yes, I'm a jealous woman & I don't want just any ol' heifer playing with my toy!
I am 100% yours my beautiful Mistress. I worship the water you walk on. You are my Queen. Do whatever you want to me. You own me. You own my heart, my body and my soul. I declare myself to you entirely.
My sub found me. I asked a technician at the dealership I work to scuff my platform stilettos so I wouldn't slip. While standing like a flamingo holding my 5" heel, I noticed the tech next to us couldn't take his eyes of me--he looked physically uncomfortable. Later that day he came to me head down, complimented my shoes and meekly offered to "be of service" in the future. Our interaction was electric and voila! a Mistress is born.
Here is the problem (or is it?): With the exception of his 4" cock, I crave his body. He's simply delicious. While I get such satisfaction from belittling & humiliating him-especially *censored*ing my stud in his presence--sometimes I crave his body against mine just as much. And this is despite the fact he's not been fully trained on how to satisfy me. It's a thin line. My satisfaction is the priority, but it cannot turn into my worshipping the cuckold.
So, a little advice needed on keeping perspective. How do you balance an attraction to your slave with your role as Mistress?
I've just acquired a new sub who is into "Mommy" role play. I want to make sure that I get the most enjoyment out of it. Any advice You can offer will be most appreciated. I absolutely LOVE your website!
My slave boy doesn't understand that I am the one in control. I make it very obvious and punish him when he is wrong. But yet, he still doesn't quite get the hints and clues. Any tips on how to help him see and understand a little better?
Since becoming a Mistress I often feel like when my slave is home that I should make sure to always have something for him to do or that I should being doing something to him. However, since he is the only one working I feel that he should also get some relaxation time when he gets home.
I feel like he always wants to be humilliated or made to do things. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I have no been in the role for very long.
My hubby and I have been married 5 years, and recently we have experimented with cuffs and paddles, and he has told me that he is completely turned on by the idea of me being dominant.
So we try it out (thanks to training day ;) but i just don't feel it, I much prefer our love making when he is dominant and I like to be touched and held, where as when he is tied up, the lack of hands feels weird, but he specifically likes being tied.
When I do act the mistress, I feel awkward, like is everything I am doing turning him on? There is just not as much pleasure for me when he is being dominated, he on the other hand loves it.
Its getting to the stage that I'm trying to avoid sex, because I know he wants me to dominate and I just dont enjoy it like that.
So, where do we go from here? He doesnt know how I feel, I dont want to burst his bubble, and I would like to get into it as I know he enjoys it so much.....
I, sissyboyslave7, promise to be obedient, loyal, kind, and loving to Princess Patricia. She is my owner. i am a little bitch. I will do anything and everything she wishes for me to do. i am a pathetic worthless slave to my mistress. I agree to please her in anyway she wants. By signing this, I sissyboyslave7 will be completely controlled by my princess.