I'm reading everything I can get my hands on about being a Mistress to my sub. he found ME, and has unleashed something in me that I knew was there but didn't knowhow to bring it out.This man is a dream come true....a complete sub...and I fully intend to make him my pet and to keep him at my side (or feet). He needs (begs) to be Dominated in every way. To be trampled, stomped on, smothered,punched, choked...humiliated. He is definately a massochist - and wants nothing more than to be mistreated and beaten. All of which I can do...and enjoy what it does to him, to break him down completely and at my command. To the vanilla world he is very much an Alpha-type... But knowing I can bring him to his knees with a command, with a look, that he wants nothing more than to serve ME, obey, worship every part of me...is SO EMPOWERING!
We have a connection thats electric! Emotional and physical, so its no surprise to me that the only thing I struggle with is talking to him and trashing him verbally. He craves to be told hes a worthess sub thats unworthy of any of my attention,except it needs to be crude, filthy, the dirtier the better.
Yes,I can cuss like anyone else! I can be dirty in my descriptions of what I want or want to do to him, but because I care deeply for him...the rest is difficult! I need advice! Anything to help me.with the right dialogue!! I posted this yesterday but as a reply...sorry!
My girlfriend and I have been together for just under a year now, our relationship is quite serious, as in we are planning on marriage type of serious. We recently brought bondage and mistress play into our sex life (which consisted mainly of vanilla sex and her fetish of fantasy rape).
The first time we tried it, I was in absolute ecstasy, and couldn't get enough of it (its pretty much my biggest fetish now) and she seemed to enjoy herself as well. However, after 2 more sessions, she said that she was "bored" of being a mistress and no longer wanted to include it in our sex life. Obviously, this is VERY frustrating, and after getting a taste of the ecstasy of being dominated I can't just let go of it...
Is there any way to re-ignite her interest in femdom play? Any way to make her un-bored of it? Is it because she would rather be dominated by me (due to her fetish for fantasy rape)? How do I solve this?? I don't wanna lose my mistress!
My husband wants me to dominate him, now I have tried before but it never seems to work. Partly because he does make it challenging and I am more comfortable assuming the role of sub then Dom. I'm fine when we first start but then I get really nervous and insecure about what I'm doing. Last night I even tried your "Training Day" scene but he would only half listen to what I told him and for punishment he laughed. I will take any advise I can get. I just need help.
Totally new into having a sub. The dude I am dating told me he likes to be dominated. I've always been a little controlling in bed, but never tied anyone up. Been pretty vanilla.
I need suggestions. He wants me to not allow him to cum, and if he does to punish him. I can withhold him from releasing 'for however long I want. ' I am confused by this and also by the punishments. Sure I'll paddle him or pout, but is that what he means to punish him when he's bad? I don't know. I asked him what sort of consequences he thinks he deserves and he said "whatever I think".
And to be honest I really don't care - I do it to make him happy. Any reading material out there or something I can do to totally get into this mind frame? Suggestions for punishment?
Love the scenario category (scenes to play). Those certainly help.
For years I have been suppressing my sexual side, but NO MORE. I am very interested in learning and experiencing more of my Dominate Female side.
One problem that I am facing is insecurity about the "look." While I would love to get all corseted and leathered up like a smoking hot dominatrix, but I am on an extremely tight budget at the moment and unfortunately I have been neglecting my Sexy Sensuous side for entirely too long. (I have, for instance, only one pair of shoes that could remotely be considered sexy.)
I have decided that it is time for me to embrace my inner bitch, but I have no idea how to look the part on a shoestring budget.
Here's my problem. My subs desire to be controlled or continue with the scene "goes completely flat" after an orgasm. We constantly find our play stunted by an untimely orgasm. Or even worse too much time goes by without an orgasm.
Dear Fellow Dommes,
I'm 19 years old, and have a wonderful guy friend whom has expressed his past experiences and how he loves being sub. I have told him my secret dream of being a Domme -- he LOVES it! I've read a lot from this website hoping to learn as much as I can. And I feel like I'm in the right place trying to learn about my inner bitch.
I've been friends with a man for four years & we started hooking up casually (safely, but casually) about a year and a half ago. Shortly after our first physical encounter, he asked me to discipline him and a new phase of our relationship opened up.
I have serious feelings for him, as he does for me, yet we're not dating. As I told him, I wouldn't do this if I didn't care for him, and I really enjoy our sessions, as does he. Obviously, developing a dom/sub relationship requires a LOT of trust, but how do I approach him about formalizing our relationship (as in full exclusivity?)
He's never submitted to anyone else & I've never dominated anyone else, yet we have both had relations with others since we aren't gf/bf. I want to take our friendship/hookup/playtime to the level of gf/bf, but how? Yes, I'm a jealous woman & I don't want just any ol' heifer playing with my toy!