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June 18, 2013

Text and email commands

Contributed by: sexyMNfemale ~ March 16, 2012

Hello I'm new to the whole Dom and sub thing. I'm not sure how to go about commanding someone via text or email. How should I start off? He says he accepts my financial use and control and that he fully submits to me. He says he'll be completely focused on my pleasure and giving certain freedoms in order to serve my interests. Should I demand something of him, I have no idea how to start but I'm excited about his willingness to serve me.

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Letter to my mistress

Contributed by: SlaveRemy ~ March 10, 2012

My Mistress

My Mistress is one of delicacy and ecstasy. No other can compare to she.
No sonnet or music is able to be composed of her, because there is no words that are able to describe her, no sir.
My mistress is one who is harsh but fair. She will treat me with kindness but whip my ass bare.
No other mistress is as beautiful as she, she cannot be compared to the sky, the earth, or the sea.
Angels fight to have a voice like hers, her skin is as soft as the finest furs.
My mistress has a face of a pearl, so majestic and makes your toes curl.
The love I have for mistress is one that is great, we were destined to be together, it is fate.
I love my mistress with all my heart, I can't stand to be without her or apart.
The joy the my mistress brings to me, is one that is only described as ecstasy.
My mistress is the most precious thing in my life, without her, I would take to my wrist a knife.
No other mistress can compare to mine, she is so glorious and so Devine.
I love her with all my heart and my soul, without her, my life would be null.

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Teacher/Governess - student role play

Contributed by: madamlu ~ March 01, 2012

Hello. I'm not even sure where start.. Thank you in advance for patiently reading. I met this guy and we got talking, one thing led to another and the next moment I was in his living room spanking him with a wooden ruler and wooden brush....Something I've never done before!

He wants to be treated like a naughty school boy and spanked for his wrong doings. After our initial encounter I mentioned to him that next time I'll use a riding crop to spank him on the bed and tie him up..but he doesn't want to be tied up...says it's too s&m and wants to keep things old fashioned...??

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Heart Spanker Paddle for your Valentine

Contributed by: Webmistress ~ February 09, 2012

Show him how much you REALLY care by imprinting his ass with little hearts during your next paddling session. It's the Elegant Moments leather paddle with hearts.

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From Stevi - I desperately need to be your slave

Contributed by: Stevi ~ February 06, 2012

I have had some experience with BDSM and it�s always on my mind. I enjoy many aspect of the lifestyle and want to fulfill this lifelong desire to be a dominated man with my girlfriend. I understand starting slow but I think she is having trouble understanding me and my desire. She thinks I�m somewhat of a freak and that�s ok. We joke about it that�s why I�m ok with it. She says she�s not happy with her appearance and this contributes to her hesitation along with not knowing really what to do. I can tell you she is perfect in every way. From the tips of her sexy toes to the top of her head with her beautiful hair - I wouldn�t change a thing. She truly is a goddess to me.

I want to be able to experience the domination I know she is capable of. She has a dominant side but doesn�t see it. She can be very aggressive and assertive when she wants to. The issue is helping her to get to this point. I hope this will help her.

Babe, I so desperately need to let you know how important this desire is for me. I want to serve you; I want to be yours to do with as you please. From whipping and training to humiliation and amusement. I want to be owned by you, I want to be controlled by you. I want to be dominated in every sexual way by you. I want to SERVE YOU and your every need. Please take me as your slave and property.
I love you.
What else can i do?

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Determining if someone is receptive to being a sub

Contributed by: TheProfessor ~ February 01, 2012

This is a two-part question. First, I am 50 years old and know I want to exercise more power in my life, especially over men. Since this would be new for me, I would like to know how I would determine a potential pet's interest in belonging to me.

Second, I recently vacationed in Jamaica and met a very luscious 29-year old Jamaican man. I really want to make him my pet, but I'm unsure how to gauge his interest in this kind of relationship. In this specific instance, I would be dealing with cultural differences. I'm not sure if different cultures have different ways of expressing themselves. Would I do the same thing here as I would in part one of my question?

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Too cute?

Contributed by: stormblast ~ January 19, 2012

Dear Mistress Blaze,

It seems every where I look, its the strong, sexy, streamlined, dominatrix. This is kind of an issue, because I am more in the cute, almost gothic lotia cute, zone. I know that there is no way on this earth I will ever be slave material, but is it even possible to be a... I don't know, a cute dominatrix? Is "cute and deadly" a no no?

Thanks

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I want a Servant not a Slave

Contributed by: determined2doit ~ January 10, 2012

My first steps in taking control:
I have purchased a "red rider" strap-on and taken his virgin ass several times... He is broken in and ready to accept more...
Every morning I insert a catheter and direct him to kneel as he swallows my "magic Nectar"... This is to remind him throughout the day that I am in charge...
I don't want him doing house work and have hired a cleaning service so that he may pay more attention to his Queen... I want a servant, not a slave...
If anyone would like to comment or give advise I look forward to reading and responding to your letters...
JR

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What Can I say?

Contributed by: Chloemae ~ January 05, 2012

He's into the whole humiliation thing and were both new to this, but we really like it!

I'm just not really sure what to say :/ I want to write a sort of script, but I have no idea what to say really. X

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My Contract To Mistress Elise

Contributed by: 25000slave ~ December 29, 2011

Dear Mistress Elise,
I pledge my mind, body and soul to you, I pledge my slavery to you and therefore that makes me yours. I will serve you until the end of time. You are my owner, my goddess, my princess, my mistress, my lady who owns my life and I am your bitch, pet, servant and slave. You may do whatever you wish to me as you own every single inch of me , I will promise to follow any little command that you say to please you and accept my punishment if I disobey or do it wrong. I will worship you daily and nightly and even when I�m away from you.
I, 25000slave pledge my life to my mistress Elise, she has the power of making me do anything she wishes
I love you mistress
Signed by 25000slave

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As you wish, Mistress E.

Contributed by: slaveformonster ~ December 16, 2011

I give myself to you as your property, mistress. I bow down to you as a play thing for your amusement and pleasure. I thank you for accepting me as your slave. You are my goddess, my princess, my owner. I shall bend to your every whim immediately, and without question. I shall wait upon you hand and foot. I shall thank you for not humiliating me publicly by being exceedingly obedient, so much so that I serve your needs without consistent prompting. I will always walk on your right, as you wish.

~Your new eager slave

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Switches?

Contributed by: foreverbunny ~ December 14, 2011

Can a switch ever make a good Dom or Domme? If so, how do you make your transition from submissive to Dominant more smoothly?

So, in the past, I thought I'd be into domination, if anything... Then my S.O. (let's call him "E") had entertained some of what I thought were just pure fantasy incest fetishes... Then I realized, I didn't just want a daddy in bed, I wanted a Daddy Dom! So he did an actual scene with me in a hotel room one night. I had the BEST time in my entire life, and E enjoyed the *perks* (enthusiastic oral sex) but not so much the role he was playing... He also has issues that we're working on to make him more comfortable with the role and demanding sexual favors.

Then later he said he's interested in switching roles and trying it out. It's only fair that if he fulfills my submissive needs, that I would fulfill his! (Thus why I am here.) I'm not as uncomfortable with being dominant as he is. I'm starting to really enjoy planning what I'm going to do to E and make him submit to:) I think I might enjoy it almost as much as submission.

Thanks in advance for your input!

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