So, my fiance has been a sub before. I'm a brand spanking new Domme. He's been very encouraging. But, just earlier we had a conversation that has greatly upset me. He said some things that make me think he might not be into this like I am. He may very well be humoring me, but not really wanting to do this. In which case I'd call the whole domme thing off, which would really suck. But neither do I want him to lie and say "of course he is" just because he knows that is what I'd do. How do I get the real answers? And when I get them, how do I deal with them?
Hello! I have always been interested in domination, but have recently decided to pursue it. I have a few problems.
A.) I have no one to dominate. I have somewhat of a slave, but he lives farther than I would find possible to travel. I need to know where I can find someone. I am not currently in any sort of relationship.
B.) I have had no experience in anything! You name it, I haven't done it. Sad, but true.
C.) I live in a very conservative area, so it's hard to express my desires. Any advice?
I have been reading through some of the other pages and have found them very useful. I just wanted to say thank you to those who have contributed.
I understand I asked quite a bit, but please forgive me. I just want to know as much as I can.
It wasn't more than three weeks ago that my Wife and i discovered our hidden desire to have a Dom/sub relationship. We've been married for 26 years and i have spent most of that time trying to figure out how to provide her with the relationship, attention, and pleasures that she deserves.
i am still not sure if this is what will make Her completely happy, but i do know that after reading your web site, playing around with a scene, communicating like never before, and of course some better than average pleasures for Her, She has a more than healthy interest in being a Dom. However, She is finding it very hard to overcome Her passive and kind-hearted nature.
It seems to be that part of the issue stems from being overwhelmed. There is just so much to being a Dom...and little for a sub....that She can't grasp it all and reverts back to trying to please me. Even the Scenes for Play section here seem to be overwhelming Her. She needs Her "inner bitch" badly and i was wondering if anyone had some helpful insight as to how to help my Mistress blossom?
I am having an massive issue over control in the bedroom. I am a dominatrix and a sadist, my friend (former fiance) is dominant but not into pain at all--or bondage, degradation/humiliation, and has flat-out refused for me to ever use a strap-on with him. I have respected his wishes not to cause him pain because he's not into it...but the neglect of an entire side of my nature was one of the contributing factors for why I broke the engagement. He definitely wants to marry me, but I don't want to spend my life unsatisfied.
The simple fact is I NEED to dominate; he knew what I was before we started going out--I told him, and I've never pretended to be anything else. I thought I could make it work just by doing a little bondage and playing on the psychological aspects of being restrained--I wouldn't have to hurt him/humiliate or do anything else to get my 'fix', and having someone with an equally powerful will submit to mine would possibly make up the difference. I even offered an equal exchange--every time I tied him up, he could tie me up next.
There is nothing quite as satisfying as the perfect resonating sound of your bare hand forcefully meeting his soapy, dripping wet ass in the shower. Try this scene and feel dirty while you are getting clean.
I keep him in chastity unless of course I want him out, along with his sexy lingerie. I have sex with him 3-4 times a week, but only let him orgasm once, if he's been good all week, and the other 3-4 days he pleasing me with his tounge.. About a week ago I went to meet my girlfriend for breakfast, but before leaving I put a collar round his neck and tied it to the headboard, and rope round his balls and tied them to the foot board, and left him unchastized (trusting or not thinking he would be bad). I left the house, but had forgotten my phone. I returned not even 5 minutes later, walked into the bedroom and there he was, hand round "my" cock!
Does cruelty have to be a part of being a Mistress/Dominatrix?
I am a sub by nature, but my husband would like me to dominate him. I don't have a problem spanking him, pinching playfully, but the idea of out right cruelty does nothing for me and I don't think that's what he is looking for either although I will discuss this with him shortly.
I guess what I am really asking is...do you have to be mean? I have looked at many sites, this one being by far the best and most helpful, but haven't read anything about the idea of "light" dominance. I know it's really about what you and your partner want and are looking for, but any answers, suggestions and tips will be greatly appreciated.
I've fantasized about dominating a man/woman for a long time, but actually doing it is harder than I expected. I know what to say, do, and wear but I can't make the words come out. Sometimes I chuckle a little from nerves. I can't be mean. Any advice on how to get over this.