Learn Female Dominance -
How to Become a Dominatrix
Welcome to Blaze's Arena. ...It's time to play.
So you’re interested in domination.
You want to have your man crawling along
like the pet that he is, right? You want to show him who’s boss?
You want to make his fantasies (and yours) come true by making him the object of your possession? Oh, my friend, you have come to the right place!
Here you will find everything you need
to know about looking the part, setting the scene and learning the ropes.
Leather divas and naughty girls in training.
Reader Q & A Ask and Answer questions for each other, and Blaze will join in as well. Blaze always encourages participation. Contribute stories, experiences, and learn from each other.
Begin reading in the topics listed here, or browse individual articles below. For more reading, check out recommendations on Blaze's Book List. And don't miss the article on Safety First before putting anything into practice!
All good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher! This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is. Sit! Stay! Good boy!
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I am new at this. My partner and I have dabbled a bit, though I am a total softy at heart and don't want to hurt him. I have come from a background of abusive relationships, and I struggle with the fact that he trusts me totally and I can do anything I want. I know he adores me, but I am uncomfortable with maybe doing it wrong? He has never done it before, but wants to and I want to make his fantasy a reality, but not too sure about how to go about it, surrenderiing the inner bitch!!
Being a pleaser at heart, I struggle with the dominating role, but soooo want to. Any advice for a newbie? Just wanna take it slow till I get my confidence. I would love to be the one in control, but don't want to stuff it up by only satisfying my needs....advice please...we're both new....
My partner and I have been in a Mistress/slave relationship for nearly 18 months now.
One of My slave's rules is that he is NOT to send or receive phone texts, emails, or communicate to any other Mistresses or women in general in a flirty/submissive/sexual way and especially not take orders from another Mistress. I know he does have contact with other Mistresses and girlfriends however from previous relationships and friendship.
What is the best way for me to ensure he is not breaking this VERY IMPORTANT rule???
I know I could just read through his texts and emails when he is not around however to me this feels a little dishonest and sneaky myself. I would like to know if any other Doms out there go through and check their subs/slaves communications? And is it better to do it when the sub/slave is present to keep the relationship open and honest?
I'm new to this whole dominatrix thing, but all of it really excites me! My slave has a huge foot fetish and wants me to humiliate/punish him with my feet. I'm not exactly sure how to go about this.. I need help ASAP!
I am completely challenged. I am very new to this whole thing of being a Domme. My slave gets so helpless and weak by just looking at my picture. He always tells me that my beauty to him is so powerful.
We started playing few weeks ago, and he said I was good the first time I played with him. So far, I have only done basic play with him (spanking, cuffing, and humiliating him). He is so experienced and I am not.
I want to get solid ideas of how to be better while playing with him. He once told me that he could barely talk while we are playing. Sometimes, I feel powerless while he give me ideas. How do I improve in action to completely make him as weak as he is while he look at my pictures? help
A few months ago I was informed by my husband that he was into being controlled. He unfortunately does not believe that I can do it, because he knows me so well. I have been playing with ideas with him and so forth, but not quite doing it for him I obviously had ideas in my head, but thought he'd think I was crazy for thinking of them.
Come to find out he is into the things that I had been thinking of, but I need more ideas. For example, if he moved I would use a chastity belt on him. Also he would not be able to masturbate for two to three days, or I would use a large strap on on him. I need some more ideas so that he does not get bored, which he does very easily. Any ideas would be so helpful.
Ever since I was a little girl I have felt very attracted to domination and submission, usually to both roles at alternate times. For various reasons, I have generally allowed myself to be dominated more than I have allowed myself to dominate, but I've decided that this is about to change. A woman's role is not to be a slave to a man, she is supposed to be his mistress! It took me a while to fully appreciate that ;-)
However, reading all the material on dom/sub and all the first-hand reports, I am left with the impression that dominatrixes do not very often engage in the act of sex per se. They tease, they punish, they occasionally allow their subs to pleasure them orally etc but they do not have full intercourse; they can easily abstain from intercourse or replace it with other methods.
I have recently acquired a new slave, however I am having a difficult time and am in need of explicit (and specific) advice. The problem is that he lives far away and my only means of communication with him is through texting, instant message and email. He is very eager and follows orders well but we are both getting bored with the same type of routine which is basic CBT and withholding ejaculation, chastity device. I want to give him tasks to complete -- anything that will humiliate him and remind him that he is pathetic, etc...any suggestions would be so helpful.
Also, he thrives on being humiliated, verbally abused, made to feel like the undeserving pet that he is. I am having a very difficult time with this. I simply can't think of things to say as I am not a mean spirited person. Can anyone help? words, phrases, any way that I can demean him?