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How to Be a Dominatrix - Embracing Your Inner Bitch    
 Welcome to Arena Blaze
 July 31, 2010
Welcome to Arena Blaze
Learn Female Dominance - How to Become a Dominatrix
Be a Dominatrix Welcome to Blaze's Arena. ...It's time to play.

So you’re interested in domination.

You want to have your man crawling along like the pet that he is, right? You want to show him who’s boss?

You want to make his fantasies (and yours) come true by making him the object of your possession? Oh, my friend, you have come to the right place!

Here you will find everything you need to know about looking the part, setting the scene and learning the ropes. Leather divas and naughty girls in training. Learn how to become a Dominatrix.

Mistress Blaze and her associates will teach you. 

Get ready to be BLAZED!!!

 TOPICS:

The Art of Authority – Domination 101
Learn the ropes, get the gear. Everything you need to go from mundane to me-ow!

Set the SceneScenes to Play – Ready to Dive In?
Blaze will help you set the stage for your lover’s fantasy and give you the links and the knowhow to make it go.

Look The PartLook The Part
What’s your style? It’s all out there. From leather to corsets, school-girl to head mistress, find it here.

Look The PartReader Fiction **NEW
Have you written some swanky sultry scenes? Share them here and inspire. Works from Dommes and subs are welcome!

Bondage Buzz - Toy ReviewBondage and the Buzz – Toy Review
From rope to spankers, to the latest in battery powered amusements, find it all in Blaze’s toybox.

Music SelectionLubricous Modulation – Mind Your Music
The right music can make a hot scene explode! Get your dominance on, with a little help from servant "j"

Reader ContributionsReader Q & A
Ask and Answer questions for each other, and Blaze will join in as well. Blaze always encourages participation. Contribute stories, experiences, and learn from each other.


Begin reading in the topics listed here, or browse individual articles below. For more reading, check out recommendations on Blaze's Book List. And don't miss the article on Safety First before putting anything into practice!

Training Day - Begin Here

   
Scenes to PlayAll good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher! This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is. Sit! Stay! Good boy!

 
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Cruelty
   
Reader Q & ADoes cruelty have to be a part of being a Mistress/Dominatrix?

I am a sub by nature, but my husband would like me to dominate him. I don't have a problem spanking him, pinching playfully, but the idea of out right cruelty does nothing for me and I don't think that's what he is looking for either although I will discuss this with him shortly.

I guess what I am really asking is...do you have to be mean? I have looked at many sites, this one being by far the best and most helpful, but haven't read anything about the idea of "light" dominance. I know it's really about what you and your partner want and are looking for, but any answers, suggestions and tips will be greatly appreciated.
 
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New at this but so totally old to it too!!
   
Reader Q & AOK I am new at being a "Miss" (Mistress or Ma'am make me feel old so I have INSISTED he calls me Miss)

BUT he is wanting to be more of my cuckhold slave and really wants to be my enuch slave.
I love the attention and all that - but afraid of taking on a sub/slave full time....what do all of you think?

Thanks fellow Ma'am's or Miss's or Madam Wonderfuls for any help you can give me.
And you must beg forgiveness first sub's before answering...
 
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My Lucky Day
   
Reader Fiction“How long has it been?” you ask over your shoulder as you wiggle your ass against my hard cock. I kiss the warm flesh at the base of your neck and push back with my hips.

“Three weeks as of tomorrow.”

“And I think you’ve brought me off about 15 times with the vibrator and that pretty mouth of yours since then.”

“Chastity makes me hungry.”

“Well, this could be your lucky day. You think you’re ready?”

 
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He wants forced feminization...
   
Reader Q & AHello ladies! My sub recently confessed to me that his greatest sexual desire is to be forced into wearing women's panties and corsets.

I am into several levels of domination, but this idea has never occurred to me, and although I would never admit it to my pet, it intimidates me. I am still very reluctant to the idea because it sounds so foreign.

Despite this, I would like to overcome this perception to give my sub new levels of humiliation. Were any other of you Mistresses intimidated by this at first? How did you get over it?

This website is fabulous!
Lady Gray
 
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Safe Sane and Consensual Blackmailing
   
Reader Q & A My puppy is into being blackmailed, so he can't weasel out of being my slave. The first time we met I asked to see his license to see if he was who he said he was. I then took it to a copier and copied it, telling him he could never get away from me. I also threatened to put up “lost dog” posters around his town if he misbehaved.

I’m going to take lots of pictures of him in the new panties I will graciously give him. Haven’t decided on what yet, perhaps just an old pair of mine; if I feel he’s earned it.

What other blackmail idea’s do you have, that while scare him, are safe, sane and consensual. I am not afraid to do it, I just want to do it right.

Miss Sadi Stick
 
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Fantasy to reality?
   
Reader Q & AJudging from the huge and growing market for femdom porn sites, many millions of men have fantasies about taking the subordinate role with strong women. Of those millions, a tiny handful have actually experienced love or sex in which both people acknowledge that the woman is dominant. (I'm guessing.)

Women, should the rest of those guys give up? What would it take to make it both safe and attractive for more women to try on the pants? What gave you the courage to be assertive and on top in your relationship? Do you think our culture is changing in ways that make this a more appealing, more possible way to be for you?


 
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Genie Dreams of Me - Part 3
   
Reader FictionIn earlier installments of this story, a superior spouse uses sexual control of her household genie to win seven wishes for the day, beginning with a thorough housecleaning. After a pause for punishment, she wishes for a delicious outdoor luncheon and hard labor in her garden. Episode two ended as our mistress dozed off from wine, warm sun and the afterglow of her fourth wish, the world’s most powerful recorded orgasm, administered orally by her supernatural helper...
 
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Keeping it going? Make him wait?
   
Reader Q & AI am new to this, but having a really good time with it. My sub and I have had several fun sessions of bondage, orgasm denial and some very good punishments, which we both enjoyed. Yesterday I had been teasing his cock all day and he was very hopeful for the evening.

I am a professional athlete and very physically active, and come last night, to be honest, just wanted to sleep. However my sub had been very well behaved, and really wanted this, and since I do care about him I wanted him to have what he had been waiting so patiently for. We had a session last night that was 'so-so'. He says he still had fun, but I don't like to give a bad performance.

My question is, in a situation like this, should I just have made him wait, or are there some tricks for giving your pet a well-deserved reward when you are not feeling like a full-on scene, without letting him forget who is boss?
 
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Intimate Evenings
   
Reader Q & AOk ladies, here’s something I like to do with my man some evenings when I’m feeling a little frisky!

The below ideas aren't overly dominant by the standards of this site, but it's a good guide for couples who are otherwise vanilla in their everyday lives to try out.
 
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Safe Word Ideas - for Dominatrix and sub
   
The Art of AuthorityThe wikipedia definition of safe word is as follows:
A safeword is a codeword or series of codewords that are sometimes used in BDSM for a submissive (or "bottom") to unambiguously communicate their physical or emotional state to a dominant (or "top"), typically when approaching, or crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary. Some safewords are used to stop the scene outright, while others can communicate a willingness to continue, but at a reduced level of intensity. Safewords are agreed upon before playing a scene by all participants.
 
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Brand New, Excited But Scared! (Strap-on and verbal humiliation?)
   
Reader Q & AI'd never really thought about domination/submission until I met my current partner, who told me straight off that he was a sub. I'm one of life's pleasers, so I knew straight away I'd go along with it, and the more I've been thinking about it the more excited I've got at the idea of being a Domme!

But I really lack confidence. So far all I've done is issue a couple of commands in the bedroom, nothing particularly Domme-ish, although I've been much more confident during our text-sex sessions! So much so that I confessed I told him that I'd like to dominate him with a strap-on, which he is very enthusiastic about!
 
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