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How to Be a Dominatrix - Embracing Your Inner Bitch    
 Welcome to Arena Blaze
 February 08, 2010
Welcome to Arena Blaze
Learn Female Dominance - How to Become a Dominatrix
Be a Dominatrix Welcome to Blaze's Arena. ...It's time to play.

So you’re interested in domination.

You want to have your man crawling along like the pet that he is, right? You want to show him who’s boss?

You want to make his fantasies (and yours) come true by making him the object of your possession? Oh, my friend, you have come to the right place!

Here you will find everything you need to know about looking the part, setting the scene and learning the ropes. Leather divas and naughty girls in training.

Mistress Blaze and her associates will teach you.

Get ready to be BLAZED!!!


 TOPICS:
The Art of Authority – Domination 101
 Learn the ropes, get the gear. Everything you need to go from mundane to me-ow!

Set the SceneScenes to Play – Ready to Dive In?
Blaze will help you set the stage for your lover’s fantasy and give you the links and the knowhow to make it go.

Look The PartLook The Part – Let Him See What’s Coming
What’s your style? It’s all out there. From leather to corsets, school-girl to head mistress, find it here.

Bondage Buzz - Toy ReviewBondage and the Buzz – Toy Review
From rope to spankers, to the latest in battery powered amusements, find it all in Blaze’s toybox.

Music SelectionLubricous Modulation – Mind Your Music
The right music can make a hot scene explode! Get your dominance on with a little help from servant "j"

Reader ContributionsReader Q & A
Ask and Answer questions for each other, and Blaze will join in as well. Blaze always encourages participation. Contribute stories, experiences, and learn from each other.


Begin reading in the topics listed here, or browse individual articles below. For more reading, check out recommendations on Blaze's Book List. And don't miss the article on Safety First before putting anything into practice!

Training Day - Begin Here

   
Scenes to PlayAll good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher! This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is. Sit! Stay! Good boy!

 
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Prop ideas on a Budget
   
Reader Q & AGood evening my fellow Mistresses and Ladies,

I am fairly new to the idea of being a dominatrix and so far what I've read and looked into, I absolutely love.

However as far as props go, my wallet doesn't seem to agree with the cost.

Any tips for a Lady on a budget?

Sincerely,
Lady Lilith
 
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Intercourse at the end of a session
   
Reader Q & AEver since I was a little girl I have felt very attracted to domination and submission, usually to both roles at alternate times. For various reasons, I have generally allowed myself to be dominated more than I have allowed myself to dominate, but I've decided that this is about to change. A woman's role is not to be a slave to a man, she is supposed to be his mistress! It took me a while to fully appreciate that ;-)

However, reading all the material on dom/sub and all the first-hand reports, I am left with the impression that dominatrixes do not very often engage in the act of sex per se. They tease, they punish, they occasionally allow their subs to pleasure them orally etc but they do not have full intercourse; they can easily abstain from intercourse or replace it with other methods.

 
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Ideas for a dominant wife from a submissive husband
   
Reader Q & AMy wife either secretly reads ideas about how to control me or she has natural talent. You decide...
 
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He loves to be humiliated - Need Verbal Abuse Ideas
   
Reader Q & AI have recently acquired a new slave, however I am having a difficult time and am in need of explicit (and specific) advice. The problem is that he lives far away and my only means of communication with him is through texting, instant message and email. He is very eager and follows orders well but we are both getting bored with the same type of routine which is basic CBT and withholding ejaculation, chastity device. I want to give him tasks to complete -- anything that will humiliate him and remind him that he is pathetic, etc...any suggestions would be so helpful.

Also, he thrives on being humiliated, verbally abused, made to feel like the undeserving pet that he is. I am having a very difficult time with this. I simply can't think of things to say as I am not a mean spirited person. Can anyone help? words, phrases, any way that I can demean him?

Thank You
 
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Dom vs. Dom
   
Reader Q & AAs a new domme I have dealt with all the feelings of fear and guilt for my sub. These feelings are no longer any concern. I am enjoying being a dom but I have a new challenge to face. That being a past dom (actually his ex) is trying to get him back. She let him go (she let her feelings get in the way), and now she's changing her mind, a year later!!

Does anybody have any advice about all this?

Thank you everyone
 
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Afraid to Hurt Him -- Dealing out the pain
   
Reader Q & AI'm new to all of this and I am scared of hurting my new pet. He's told me that I won't hurt him, but I'm still freaked. I really want to be able to do this. Any advice on how I can get over my fear quicker?

Thanks heaps.

 
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Dominating a Female
   
Reader Q & AI see a lot of tips on how to dominate males but I do not see any info on how to dominate females. I am new to this lifestyle and I have found a submissive female that wants me to play with her and dominate her, but I do not have a clue how to get started and what to do. Please help me out!
 
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Slave Essays
   
Reader Q & AI have read/heard about Mistresses giving their slaves essays to prepare... Sounds like an interesting concept, however I would like to know more about what type of essays these are - what topics etc. I know I could get him to write about anything I want really, but does anyone have any basic ideas/topics for a good slave essay?
 
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Releasing My Inner Domme
   
Reader Q & AFor as long as I can remember, I have loved domination. The feeling of being in control and have someone submit to me completely is indescribable. I have always dabbled with dominance in relationships and in the bedroom, but I never fully accepted this side of myself either.

For example, for Valentine's day, I got one of my ex boyfriends a dog tag that said "Robin's Pet Justin" and put it on the spiked dog collar he always wore (he was gothic, I didn't force it on him) and he loved it. I would get him to wear my underwear and lingerie and put make up on him. I even cut my initials into his hip so in case he broke up with me, he would never forget me and neither would his future girlfriends. But at the same time, he controlled me outside of the bedroom and became emotionally abusive if I ever argued with him. Now, I don't know much (yet), but from what I can gather, a dominatrix who has fully accepted "her inner bitch" would never have dealth with such behavior. In fact, I doubt there would be an argument at all since her word is law.
 
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Chastity Device question
   
Reader Q & AHow do I talk my sub into wearing a Chastity Device? Sometimes when we're apart, he pleasures himself, and then doesn't have enough drive for me. I want it all. ~~ Newbie
 
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