Learn Female Dominance -
How to Become a Dominatrix
Welcome to Blaze's Arena. ...It's time to play.
So you’re interested in domination.
You want to have your man crawling along
like the pet that he is, right? You want to show him who’s boss?
You want to make his fantasies come true
by making him the object of your possession? Oh, my friend, you have come
to the right place!
Here you will find everything you need
to know about looking the part, setting the scene and learning the ropes.
Leather divas and naughty girls in training.
Reader Contributions / Questions Blaze always encourages participation. Contribute stories, experiences, and ask questions. Learn from each other.
Begin reading in the topics listed here, or browse individual articles below. And don't miss the article on Safety First before putting anything into practice!
All good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher! This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is. Sit! Stay! Good boy!
Dear Mistress Blaze,
I have been looking at Dominatrix wear online, and it all seems to be black, black, black, with the occasional hints of red. Does Domme-wear *have* to be black?
Hi everybody, I'm new here and to this whole new world my husband (bless his sweet little ass) opened up for me. Several months ago he expressed to me his desire for me to *censored* him. I had never considered the option but consented. Then he bought a book, The Mistress manual (see link in the right hand column!) and suggested maybe we could work some Dom play into our little game.
Oh boy did he open a can of worms, I'm thoroughly enjoying my new role. It gives me a sense of power over him that I've never experienced before...and he loves it.
I do have a question concerning loosening him up for my new toy (a good ass ramming is his reward for his services to me).
His usual reward is 8"x2", and I want to surprise him with the Bam cock it's 10 1/2 insertable x 3" diameter. I realize this is a bit of a jump, but he's fascinated with another website showing huge strap-ons. So how can I get from A to B WITHOUT damaging that sweet butt of his?
For the past few days, my servant or slave if you will... has been on the bossy side. What do you think I should do? I have done many things to remind him who he is talking to, but nothing seems to be working. He is still not minding. I am unsure what has brought on this behavior. What can I do to make it stick in his small mind that I am his Alpha, and he will respect me? Do you think he just wants more pain? Please help.
Wow! Its been a long 4 days. I first wrote last Friday 2/13/09, about my husband and I trying dominatrix for the first time. We did go to a local adult store and picked up a few things. A strap-on with three sizes, a blindfold, a whip, an outfit, and of course new kind of lube! We went home to try out our new toys and 2 hours later we were satisfied. We both enjoyed it more than we thought we would.
The next day, we started early getting the mood set for that night. It was even better than the night before, 3 hours! We used our new toys and some from our collection. Sunday, same thing! My husband just can't get enough! Monday night I just couldn't handle much. I mean I had been banged for 3 days and was just sore. I don't understand how he could have handled another night.
So we have talked more about this whole fantasy of his and decided that its great but we aren't going to do it every time. Its a treat for him more than me so I'm going to reserve it somewhat, it will only make it better!
So that's all for now. I sure do appreciate the space to write out my take on things. I would love to hear from anyone who has got ideas or suggestions for me.
Well here goes! I guess I should start by telling you that my husband came to me 2 days ago with the idea of dominatrix. I started checking the web, which led me here. Arena Blaze gave me good advice to get started. So....here goes!
We are heading to town in a little while to check out some "supplies".
Tonight will be our first attempt as Mistress Sexy Bitch and her sub big daddy. Wish us luck and we will keep in touch!
XOXOXO Sexy Bitch
I am wanting to take my controlling nature to the next level and learn to become a Dom. I have books and a willing slave. I would like tips and advice. I like the sound of punishment and bringing my inner bitch to my slave. The power I feel is so right.
I would like to hear from you ladies, and I will hear from the subs if your Mistresses allows you to write (unless you are looking to be punished!).
I'm new as a Domme and I was wondering how many times a week of "play" Is Ideal?
Also - I was also wondering about strap-ons. I don't know how to bring that up to my partner. I'm not sure if I want one or not, if I want to use it in all the ways it's designed. I really don't think he would go for it (when I say that I mean maybe not penetration). Does that make sense? Any advice?
Creative pet dressing .... and I'm not talking about gravy. ...although "Stove Top" tends to conjure up a few amusing images. Here are some different ideas...