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Female Dominance - How to Become a Dominatrix
Welcome to Blaze's Arena. ...It's time
to play.
So you’re interested in domination.
You want to have your man crawling along
like the pet that he is, right? You want to show him who’s boss?
You want to make his fantasies (and yours)
come true by making him the object of your possession? Oh, my friend, you
have come to the right place!
Here you will find everything you need
to know about looking the part, setting the scene and learning the ropes.
Leather divas and naughty girls in training. Learn how to become a Dominatrix.
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for each other, and Blaze will join in as well. Blaze always encourages
participation. Contribute stories, experiences, and learn from each other.
Begin reading in the topics listed here, or browse individual
articles below. For more reading, check out recommendations on Blaze's
Book List. And don't miss the article on Safety
First before putting anything into practice!
All good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher! This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is. Sit! Stay! Good boy!
It wasn't more than three weeks ago that my Wife and i discovered our hidden desire to have a Dom/sub relationship. We've been married for 26 years and i have spent most of that time trying to figure out how to provide her with the relationship, attention, and pleasures that she deserves.
i am still not sure if this is what will make Her completely happy, but i do know that after reading your web site, playing around with a scene, communicating like never before, and of course some better than average pleasures for Her, She has a more than healthy interest in being a Dom. However, She is finding it very hard to overcome Her passive and kind-hearted nature.
It seems to be that part of the issue stems from being overwhelmed. There is just so much to being a Dom...and little for a sub....that She can't grasp it all and reverts back to trying to please me. Even the Scenes for Play section here seem to be overwhelming Her. She needs Her "inner bitch" badly and i was wondering if anyone had some helpful insight as to how to help my Mistress blossom?
I am having an massive issue over control in the bedroom. I am a dominatrix and a sadist, my friend (former fiance) is dominant but not into pain at all--or bondage, degradation/humiliation, and has flat-out refused for me to ever use a strap-on with him. I have respected his wishes not to cause him pain because he's not into it...but the neglect of an entire side of my nature was one of the contributing factors for why I broke the engagement. He definitely wants to marry me, but I don't want to spend my life unsatisfied.
The simple fact is I NEED to dominate; he knew what I was before we started going out--I told him, and I've never pretended to be anything else. I thought I could make it work just by doing a little bondage and playing on the psychological aspects of being restrained--I wouldn't have to hurt him/humiliate or do anything else to get my 'fix', and having someone with an equally powerful will submit to mine would possibly make up the difference. I even offered an equal exchange--every time I tied him up, he could tie me up next.
There is nothing quite as satisfying as the perfect resonating sound of your bare hand forcefully meeting his soapy, dripping wet ass in the shower. Try this scene and feel dirty while you are getting clean.
I keep him in chastity unless of course I want him out, along with his sexy lingerie. I have sex with him 3-4 times a week, but only let him orgasm once, if he's been good all week, and the other 3-4 days he pleasing me with his tounge.. About a week ago I went to meet my girlfriend for breakfast, but before leaving I put a collar round his neck and tied it to the headboard, and rope round his balls and tied them to the foot board, and left him unchastized (trusting or not thinking he would be bad). I left the house, but had forgotten my phone. I returned not even 5 minutes later, walked into the bedroom and there he was, hand round "my" cock!
Does cruelty have to be a part of being a Mistress/Dominatrix?
I am a sub by nature, but my husband would like me to dominate him. I don't have a problem spanking him, pinching playfully, but the idea of out right cruelty does nothing for me and I don't think that's what he is looking for either although I will discuss this with him shortly.
I guess what I am really asking is...do you have to be mean? I have looked at many sites, this one being by far the best and most helpful, but haven't read anything about the idea of "light" dominance. I know it's really about what you and your partner want and are looking for, but any answers, suggestions and tips will be greatly appreciated.
OK I am new at being a "Miss" (Mistress or Ma'am make me feel old so I have INSISTED he calls me Miss)
BUT he is wanting to be more of my cuckhold slave and really wants to be my enuch slave.
I love the attention and all that - but afraid of taking on a sub/slave full time....what do all of you think?
Thanks fellow Ma'am's or Miss's or Madam Wonderfuls for any help you can give me.
And you must beg forgiveness first sub's before answering...
I've fantasized about dominating a man/woman for a long time, but actually doing it is harder than I expected. I know what to say, do, and wear but I can't make the words come out. Sometimes I chuckle a little from nerves. I can't be mean. Any advice on how to get over this.
“How long has it been?” you ask over your shoulder as you wiggle your ass against my hard cock. I kiss the warm flesh at the base of your neck and push back with my hips.
“Three weeks as of tomorrow.”
“And I think you’ve brought me off about 15 times with the vibrator and that pretty mouth of yours since then.”
“Chastity makes me hungry.”
“Well, this could be your lucky day. You think you’re ready?”
Hello ladies! My sub recently confessed to me that his greatest sexual desire is to be forced into wearing women's panties and corsets.
I am into several levels of domination, but this idea has never occurred to me, and although I would never admit it to my pet, it intimidates me. I am still very reluctant to the idea because it sounds so foreign.
Despite this, I would like to overcome this perception to give my sub new levels of humiliation. Were any other of you Mistresses intimidated by this at first? How did you get over it?