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Dominant-Submissive fiction is Number One right now

Tue, 15 May 2012 17:42:00 -0500

The current number one selling book at Amazon right now is about a Dominant/submissive couple. It's called, 50 Shades of Grey. Apparently we are finally getting the word out! While the Dom in this book is the male, there is still plenty to learn from this, and it will get your creative juices flowing (If you know what I mean!)
If you like this site, you'll LOVE 50 Shades of Grey. What are you waiting for? Go order a copy. Do it NOW!

Sexy Elixirs

Thu, 10 May 2012 12:13:00 -0500

My Mistress usually has me make a �slave elixir� and a �Mistress Cock-tail� to get our sessions started. It has become part of Her ritual and the idea is so neat to me. It�s like I�m going under Her spell when I drink it. We have very pretty, dedicated glasses we use only for this special sexy occasion. The slave tonic is a little bit kin to a LIT but it does have a �secret aphrodisiac� ingredient. It is strong and helps me with being able to physically and mentally serve and service my smokin hot Lady. My Mistress tells me what to put in it and how much and, I guess it�s through conditioning that my cock actually begins getting stiff while I�m making it! So I make it and then She tells me to turn it up and chug it down. My heart rate always goes up in direct proportion with my excitement and anticipation when I drink that drink. I know that within minutes I will likely have a freshly-spanked, very red ass, and that I will probably wind up with an extremely tired mouth and tongue from all the sucking and licking I will most surely have to perform for her. I never know from one session to the next what to expect as lately She has been known to bring certain friends over and have me be their slave as well � both women and men. So yeah, the slave elixir is actually a good thing. When you are told that you are going to be taking orders from two Mistresses or a Mistress and a Master � having a bit of a buzz is a very good thing! But thinking about it makes me hard as a rock. Of course I make the Mistress�s Cock-tail for her too. She tells me what to put in it and she doesn�t hold back on Her�s either. I can really tell a difference with Her because She becomes much less inhibited mentally, physically and verbally. She gets a dirty mouth on Her and the real Dominatrix comes out. Her sexiest ideas have cum to fruition while being under the influence of Her Mistress Elixir. I just get a little nervous when she picks up the phone. The last time we drank our sex drinks I ended up (pun intended!) face down on the bed with my hands cuffed behind my back, ass up in the air, ankles spread very wide and tied to the bed-posts, pleading and getting f-ucked by a very large dildo. This happened after my Mistress reddened my butt with her ever-present paddle. She really knows what I secretly desire, and She really knows how to make it hurt so good! Yeah, and while She wore my ass out with that big fat fake cock, She of course told me what a bad bitch-whore I was, and that if I moaned any louder She would spank my ass again. Then knowing what I would do, seemingly daring me, She started pumping my cock with Her other hand. My Mistress was sliding Her fingers all around the head with copious amounts of my pre-cum being used on my cock and also spreading some on my ass. She is so devious after that cock-tail! Imagine the audacity of using my own pre-cum to lube my own ass! Entering me with the huge slick dildo in one hand and pumping my dripping hard cock with the other; the intensity was too much for me to take�� She was true to Her word too cos when I finally exploded, I couldn�t help it (or could I?) and I moaned to the point She thought the neighbors would hear. So I got my ass paddled and reddened even more. I was told what a bad little slut I was and that my moaning was much too loud. Then, with a special silver spoon, She scraped up all the hot load She pumped out of my dick and fed it to me telling me I better get used to it; smiling and slowly pulling the massive fake cock from my ass all the while. I felt like a gang-banged cum-slut for sure! She really does have a spell over me to make me love the pain/pleasure mix and the humiliation. I�m totally devoted to Her and I think I am addicted to the nasty things She does to me and the very naughty things She has me do to Her. That drink makes me sooooo obedient, and it makes Her sooooo horny! Try creating your very own Mistress/slave Elixirs and see what it does to your inhibitions! Be creative and make them just like you like to have them. Make it fun and exciting! Enjoy the pain and the pleasure.

Toilet Training, Mommy Play and Puppy Play

Sat, 05 May 2012 01:52:03 -0500

My man has asked me to research toilet training as he wants to do it lol. I don't really know much about it or what to do at all and I really want to please him and play with him. So, an you please help me with this and at least tell me where to go to find something to read on the subject. Also he is interested in Mommy play and I can sort of figure it out but I would still like to do some reading on it. Same thing for puppy play. Thank you for this awesome site.

"The Outfit"

Fri, 04 May 2012 07:39:00 -0500

My latest purchase. Gawd I can't wait to whip some ass in my fine new leathers.... ;-)The corset is lovely because its laces up the back so it *always* fits just right.

Elektra Bustier
Danzig Mini Skirt
Electra 5" Lace-Up Boot

If you click the images, you can see where I bought this delight. Who wants to go shopping!?!

Apparel Starters for Plus Size Dommes

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 23:36:16 -0500

I do not feel sexy and it is because I am a very short, large woman, but my man loves me the way I am, and he thinks I'm sexy. The problem is that I need to feel it too in order to be that confident Domme he wants to experience. I have looked around on your site at the clothing section and saw many things that I would love to wear, but I want to look my best and at the moment have little to spend. My man loves the fishnet stockings, body stocking and black latex/patent and also leather. I love the Goth look and feel of some clothing, but I really want to hide my belly as much as possible and still get a good look going. Can you suggest some of the clothing items to begin with until I have managed to lose a little more weight please?

Leather Dominatrix Outfit

Tue, 17 Apr 2012 07:19:00 -0500

Looking for a leather dominatrix outfit? You may be browsing for the real deal, or just looking for more of a costume for some fantasy play or Halloween. In any case, you want to look hot in your leather outfit and exude the power of the dominatrix that you are. Embrace that inner bitch, and wrap her in leather. Leather should fit tight, but not too tight. It has a little bit of give to it, and will conform to your body the more you wear it, just like a nice pair of shoes. Speaking of shoes, choose your shoes based on your choice of vinyl or leather and they will go a long way with many outfits. Leather is easy to clean, and holds up well under many conditions including sweat and oil.

You may prefer a bare-bones type of outfit consisting mainly of straps and metal rings, or you may choose more coverage such as a dress, or even a jacket type of leather dominatrix outfit.

I love to wear a nice leather mask at times as part of my outfit. It adds a new air of mystery to the woman behind it, and if you are dealing with (your) husband as your sub, it will help him to remove all thoughts of his "wife" (you) more easily. So will the light sting of your leather flogger.

As the Domina, you are in charge. So buy whatever you want. I recommend shopping for that leather dominatrix outfit at one of my two favorite stores:

Wicked Temptations and Hips and Curves

Also check out Amazon for some awesome leather Dominatrix outfits.

Brand Spanking New Domme

Mon, 16 Apr 2012 01:53:00 -0500

I just found out my guy is really into being dominated but I'm such a sub that I would be happy to do this for him. Confusing to begin with, but aside from that I have no idea where to start. What should be punished? What should be rewarded? And which is what? Also how can you make having that kind of attitude less tiring? I know I'm asking for a lot but anything you can give me would be so helpful. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

My Dear Mistress Ananda,

My first reaction is to choke on my coffee when I see that you are basically "willing do dominate him" in order to "submit to him". This seems like quite a paradox. However, like many born again dommes, you probably didn't realize that you had it in you all along, and have just now found a partner willing to experiment in this delightful give and take.

Start by reading as much as you can on the Art of Authority and developing and nurturing your attitude. Get some books from my recommended book list.

This should not be tiring. It's already in you. You just have to let it out. Most women have been trained their whole lives to be compliant and demure, while suppressing their true inner self. Find it. You are a Goddess. He should do everything for you. He is there to SERVE you. He will of course require some training to get him to know what to do. He can't read your mind. I suggest you develop a routine with a list of things you want him to do. Punish him when he doesn't them to your satisfaction, reward him when he does. Don't go easy on him. Demand no less than absolute perfection from him. Make him repeat tasks over and over until he does them right. Perhaps the task is something as luxurious as massaging you, or giving you a pedicure.

When you're ready for action, start with the section of this website called "Scenes to Play", specifically Training Day. Get your boy trained and enjoy the hell out of yourself. It's about you, not him. Go all out. Do it right and he'll literally do anything you want just to get more, even the dishes.

Enjoy your new power. ~~ Mistress Blaze ~~

Bull Whip - There's An App for That

Sun, 15 Apr 2012 19:46:00 -0500

A virtual whip. Amuse yourself with this app, until you're able to get full training on using a real whip! I was completely tickled by this app and have found great use for it as a "warning signal" when my little doggie is starting to stray from good behavior. Since he's had a taste of the real thing, just the mere sound of my little pocket whip brings back memories of pain and obedience. Best part is that it's free. Download it here: Pocket Whip
Pocket Whip★ WOOSH! CRACK! Pocket Whip is like having a real life stock whip in your pocket! ★ Move your iPhone side to side to WOOSH, flick your wrist to CRACK! You'll be whipping like a pro in no time! ★ As seen onThe Big Bang Theory! ★ For best results make sure the volume on your iPhone or iPod Touch is turned all the way up.

When you're ready for the real thing, get a leather bullwhip here: Leather bullwhip 6 foot

Overall, it's a solid beginner bullwhip.

Now go whip some ass. Enjoy.

New punishment ideas? - for long distance domination

Sun, 15 Apr 2012 19:25:00 -0500

I am currently learning how to be a Dominatrix and have found a willing sub and I have to say I am loving it so far. I did not really have a clue where to start but found this site and read it all before beginning. I found it the most helpful thing to me yet, so thank you. My problem is not only am I new, but my sub is as well PLUS he lives miles away from me. I have read the Q&As on long distance and telephone domination and am grateful for the help there. Can anyone offer anything further. Given we are quite restricted I fear the novelty will wear off and there is a chance I can put this into practice in person with him soon, so don't want to ruin it. So far I made a list of rules he is to to obey to daily, i.e. no playing himself, or looking at my pics, and I have issued punishments such as not letting him release until I say so etc. Also correcting him if he addresses me wrongly etc. I used Training Day ideas the best I could via long distance but I am running out of things fast. Basically I need more punishment ideas. Or other things I can make him do for me. He is even into the chastity belt idea which I might surprise him with should we meet and take the key home with me, etc. Any help would be appreciated from anyone. Thank you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ UPDATE FROM MISTRESS BLAZE: I am republishing this story with a current date in order to get a few more responses. This is a common question on the site and has unique challenges. I caution new dommes about letting him view you via web cam use unless you really trust your sub. There are many privacy and safety issues where this is concerned. Outside of that, you can do many things you can do to reward/punish/control him using the phone, email and text. You can order him to do things and then as reward you can order him to imagine you in certain situations while he masturbates to your instructions. If you use email, I recommend you get a separate account so that you don't accidentally hit that "send" button before you realize it just went to everyone at your office. Take care. I can't wait to see what advice my wonderful readers will post below......

Follow Blaze on Twitter -- Feed Your Inner Bitch

Sun, 15 Apr 2012 13:25:45 -0500

Dominatrix tips and quips that will even inspire regular people to explore their inner Domme.

Mistress Blaze finally got a Twitter account. I'm always telling her that her funny retorts would make great tweets, and she is finally on board. But she isn't going to use it much if you bitches don't get over there and follow her! If you prefer to call it "stalking", that's ok too!

Obedient subs are also welcome to follow our Twitter feed, but don't expect any attention boys. You'll have to earn it, or have permission from your Mistress.

Here's the link: http://twitter.com/ArenaBlaze