The main trick here is to keep your role in mind. Even when the activity you choose is good for your sub, never let them forget who they have to thank for the pleasure they're getting. You're still in control, even when they get the chance to lose theirs. Speaking of which...

Our "Mistress of Code & Other Painful Afflictions", WebMistress, brought up a good point after reading my first draft of this article: "What if your sub......'Slips up'?" Most of us are dealing with men, I assume and as such are aware of their complete - and completely irritating - inability to control themselves, even when they're being told to. Fortunately, this testosterone fueled weakness can be exploited as an exquisite way to dominate a man. See this month's scenario for more info.

So...the bottom line is this. Your sub trusts you, and lets you do all sorts of things to him in the name of pleasure - and a happy pet is an obedient one - so throw him a bone every now and then...just make sure he begs you for it, and thanks you when you're done.