For the past few days, my servant or slave if you will... has been on the bossy side. What do you think I should do? I have done many things to remind him who he is talking to, but nothing seems to be working. He is still not minding. I am unsure what has brought on this behavior. What can I do to make it stick in his small mind that I am his Alpha, and he will respect me? Do you think he just wants more pain? Please help.

There is nothing worse than a sassy sub. If he won't shut up, then you will just have to shut him up. Your sub sounds like a prime candidate for a gag. (Please use caution with a gag, and be familiar with safety tips.)

In addition to this, I would evaluate what has brought this on. Not knowing you personally, it's difficult to say eactly, but it seems likely that your sub is pushing his limits because he's getting bored or wants you to push him to new levels (of pain, punishment, bondage, or submission). So, show him something new, and push him to a new level only if you feel it's appropriate. Don't let this become an opportunity for him to start controlling YOU though.

If you're still getting nowhere, you might try withholding the things that he seems to enjoy from you. This is like a child being "grounded". It works. Unfortunately sometimes it also punishes you at the same time, especially if you really enjoy inflicting things on him - much like parents are punished when their surly teenagers are now stuck at home with them for the evening! But, discipline is extremely important and lessons must be learned.

I'd still stick with the gag during this type of withholding treatment, perhaps a ball gag. Handcuff him too, to keep him at bay. If he wants your attention, gag him and then ignore him. If he wants pain, don't give it to him. Instead, taunt him with his favorite flogger and show him what he wants, but don't use it on him. Pleasure yourself in front of him, but don't let him touch or have a tast. Keep him gagged so he can't mouth off, even if he wants to. If he wants anything at all, do not give it to him. And give him no explanation for why you have removed his priviledges other than, "When you show yourself to be worthy, then you will have your priviledges reinstated." Eventually he will go back to being obedient in order to have his mistress's attention again.

And when he learns obedience again, be sure to reward him appropriately.

~ Mistress Blaze ~