I'm so glad I can help. These are three wonderful questions. Let's see what I can do to help...
1) What are some other ways to punish a sub besides spanking?
Tie him up, gag him, tease him with something he wants (like your body, or a spanker he wants), tickle him with a feather, grab his hair, make him kneel, make him do chores (my favorite), wrap him up in bondage tape, try some new toys on him (see my toy section of the website for ideas), collar him, lead him by a leash, make him dance for you, make him do what ever you want. Be creative. The list is endless.
Other safe ways to cause him pain: hot wax, spanking with different objects - flogger, whip, hairbrush, nipple clamps (I'm not personally a fan of this, but some like it). You could also wax his legs, or his back, or even his privies. I'm sure some of our readers can come up with more. How about it, Ladies? Post some ideas.
2) Should you name your sub? If you want to, then yes. Many Dom/subs love to use special names when they are playing their roles. I know some who address notes or emails to their sub using their special names as part of playful bantor and to signal that it is part of special playtime that is to come. Special names also help you get into your role more, because you will feel less like your "usual" controlled outer self and more like the Bitch you have inside.
If you're not sure how to go about chosing names, you could ask your sub what he would like you to call him. Or, you could order him to spend some time coming up with a list of suggestions from which you will choose one.
3) How do you come up with so much confidence to do this? How can I show him that I'm not nervous?
Trust me. The person on the recieving end of the paddle (crop, flogger, etc) is *way* more nervous than the donor. And if you are truly nervous, then you must ACT like you are not nervous. He won't know the difference. In other words, you don't have to be confident, you just have to ACT confident. With experience, you will be.
Another easy way for a beginner to get a little real confidence is to wear a sexy mask. People feel much more comfortable doing new things when they feel more "anonymous" in a mask. Just ask anyone who's ever been to Mardi Gras. And if you still feel like he sees you as nervous, then put HIM in a blindfold.
Indulge, Enjoy... You're the boss. Don't let him forget it.
I have to say that when I run out of ideas for slave punishments, I make him write out a list before I let him cum. He can write really fast! He likes to have his hair pulled, candle wax, soap in his mouth, to be tied up and ignored, slapping, biting, spitting in mouth (though I prefer not to do this one), and tying up. But it just depends on what your particular slave likes.
As for the confidence, I've found that a glass of wine can help with that.
my fav thing to do to my "bitches" is to use nylon rope, and bind his hands behind his back...then bind his cock to his hands ( underneath and between his legs) putting a leash on him, walking him around the house like that with a ass pug or long stem candle ( lite of course) with a nylon stocking on his head and in big bright red lipstick with slut written on it across the forehead... then take him to "drink" form the potty ( like the dog he is ) and step on his head all while he is saying "thank u princess" .... dont for get to make him suck on the heal of your shoe like a dick.... flogg his cock... i have other "extream" things... but i am pro, so u do run outta things and have to get creative.... also if he is open to it put out cigarettes on his dick
Hi, I need help ASAP! I have done Dominatrix for awhile but i have this slave (new one) that is 110% into humiliation degraded a lot, being whipped/flogged, forced anal, cbt, forced feminization...i just have never done that part yet. how do i go about it ? I am clueless in what to do in this situation. lol. HELP!
Great ideas! Some things I do with my husband depending on what he gets punished for are spitting and the stuff mentioned before but one thing that really works is I start to use one of my toys and kick him outside the room until im done then I make him come clean my toy. Any other ideas like this one?
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I have to say that when I run out of ideas for slave punishments, I make him write out a list before I let him cum. He can write really fast! He likes to have his hair pulled, candle wax, soap in his mouth, to be tied up and ignored, slapping, biting, spitting in mouth (though I prefer not to do this one), and tying up. But it just depends on what your particular slave likes.
As for the confidence, I've found that a glass of wine can help with that.