Hey There,

I can relate to you. I am the submissive one in our day to day
relationship and then in the bedroom, it's completely opposite.
I'm the Sadistic Bitch and he's the submissive slave.

The best way to get into character for me is to LOOK the part.
It's kind of ceremonial for me...I dress in the highest heels I
have...the sexiest outfit and tons of eye make up and maybe
even some red lipstick...make yourself look completely
different and you will feel different. Part of playing the part is
looking the part. A shot of vodka helps with the nerves too.

This may sound cheesy but dress how you see Dommes dress
on TV or in Hollywood...hopefully this helps!
Good luck and happy flogging =)

Hah, sorry I forgot the second part of explaining how you can
get in the mood after telling how you can make it more
"ceremonial" rather than just "dressing up".

Kink.com helps me get in the mood...Divine Bitches is my
favorite...those girls are brutal...watch a few clips of them
abusing some willing men and not only should it turn you on,
but it should also give you some great ideas...my boyfriend
and I like to watch them together before and sometimes
during sessions...if i let him.

I also finger my torture devices and think about his face when
I use them on his body...so hopefully THAT helps..haha