I'm new to the whole scene and have been using this site as a reference VERY often but I still can't seem to get comfortable in the position. I get nervous and freeze sometimes, forgetting what I was saying... Any advice?
Always, MistrezzJean

Write down a few of your key phrases that you want to stick with as part of a "script" for yourself. Keep it just bare bones, put it on a notecard and keep it near by. Try making him wear a blindfold for most of it and only letting him peek out a little at a time. This will give you more confidence if he is not looking at you. OR, just order him to look at the floor. MAKE him. Then try to relax and have fun! He WANTS you to, and you CAN'T do it wrong, because YOU are the boss.

If you freeze and forget what you were saying, then order HIM to tell you what you JUST said. Do that as often as necessary, then you don't have to remember!

Thanks! Wow, I was really surprised when I got such a quick response! I did have one more question though.

I deffintly need help controlling and keeping him in line. I've attepted 'Training Day' multiple times and it works for a little. I've tried physical punishment (sadly, he likes the pain) and not giving him attention but nothing seems to work.

Help? Thank you!


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Mistrezz Samantha

This is a common problem! Check out this whole article... http://www.arenablaze.com/article.php/sassy-sub

Dear Mistress Blaze:
I thoroughly enjoy your web site. Thank you so much for making this resource available!

Do you have any suggestions regarding how I can dominate my slave by phone? I'm looking for specific ideas. I have required him to delay orgasm, to wear panties, to tie a string around his genitals, to write me essays. Do you have any other ideas?

Thank you again!
~Mistress Minx

Here are some tips on long distance domination that might help.....

Be sure to hit up the Readers Q and A section for the best place to post questions!

I'm new to this, and finding this website has been so helpful. I've been soaking up as much information as I can here. Thanks so much to Mistress Blaze and her staff for sharing their experiences and helping us newbies to get our feet (and other body parts) wet. I'll definitely be staying tuned and sharing my experiences!

Respectfully,
MsC

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"Help me become somebody else" -Trent Reznor

Hello, brand spankin (:P) new beginner to being an dom. I have been lucky enough to find myself and interested sub that not only intrigues me but I find very tantalizing, only problem is he is half way around the world. I need guidance on how to keep him interested without being able to actually physically reward on the spot. Is a virtual realtionship possible?

I am learning how to be a Dominatrix and my sub is also female. How does this change the whole thing ? We are both bi-curious and my husband participate. I believe I should Dom over both of these silly subs. How is it done ?


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Rosie

I'm of course extremely new to the idea of being a dominatrix. It's always been interesting to me and sounds like a LOT of fun. I think I'm more worried that what if I have a hard time finding someone interested?

My slave is a scientist/professor and can only get into a scene when it is one where he does not realize he has been cleverly captured until it is too late. What are some clever scenario suggestions to bring my slave around?

I'm not compleatly new to Dominatrix, but I have a new slave. He's untammed, and anytime I try to train him he some how turns it on me. He's older by a few years, and taller than me... How can I fix my disadvantage toward him?

HELP!?!

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~Azrael S.

Ohh how honored I feel to have found such an informational site. I have always had a strong nature and intimidate most men very easily. I have played with the thought of having a Domme take me under her wing and teach me the fine art of Domination. That thought is never far from my mind but I am not addressing my concerns right now but seek guidance in how to train a sissy online. He is quite willing and devoted. I live in NY he resides in Montana. He completes written tasks for me daily and is truly a pain slut. He desires to be a sissy wife and I want to help him reach this goal. I have asked him to take a rubber band and wrap it around his tongue several times early in the morning and it stays in all day. This way he feels me near him at all times. I felt that would be a great bonding experience for us. He was especially pleased by this physical task. When he removes the rubber band it is placed on his wrist. Each day I plan to have him add one more rubber band. I am a novice and seek out advise, ideals, suggestions. I have also been approached by others wishing for me to take them on. Your assistance will be greatly appreciated.

ATTENTION DIVAS!

There are some great questions posted here. However, if you want answers, then you need to post them in the correct place. The Reader Q & A section is the best place to do that. Your question will start a new topic and you'll get lots of answers. Try it and see!! Here it is:
http://www.arenablaze.com/staticpages/index.php/readerQA