All good pets have to be trained, right? Well today is training day for your man-pet. This is obedience school, and you’re the teacher!
This is a great scene for beginning doms and is a great way to teach your man his place. It’s also a good idea to repeat this scene on a regular basis, so no one forgets who the alpha dog is.
Sit! Stay! Good boy!
As always: Play safe. Domination is an exchange of trust. If you don’t have a “safe-word” then establish one immediately (read here for safe word ideas). Make sure that the only thing your subject has to worry about is what you are going to do to him if he disobeys. For more tips on how to play safe, click here.
This scene requires very little setup, and it’s a great excuse to pick up a few of the essentials that every good dominatrix should have on hand.
RESTRAINTS: You’ll need restraints for your pet’s wrists. Both Eden Fantasys and Wicked Temptations are great sources for these items, as well as Amazon. If you are comfortable using rope, then by all means, knock yourself out. Just remember to play safe.
LUBRICANT: There is a wide assortment available in various formulations, scents and flavors. This is a matter of personal taste, so to speak, but my servant J seems to enjoy Cherry Flavored lube. It stays slick for a long time, and it tastes MUCH better than other water-based lubes. :grin:
THE NOTE: Write him a note. Nothing long and mushy, nor overly creative. Just a note telling your pet where to be, and what to be wearing…. My note for servant-J usually runs thusly: “Remove your clothes, and knock on the bedroom door. You have 5 minutes. - Mistress Blaze”. Depending on whether or not his training is corrective, or just for my amusement, I may include instructions about blindfolds or restraints or whatever. Remember: YOU ARE IN CHARGE.
COSTUME: Your pet should be wearing as little as possible. Try here for Pet Wear. You, on the other hand, should be dressed like the vixen that you are. Men are affected by visual stimulation differently from women. This scene is about showing your pet the sweet treat that he wants, and making sure that knows that obedience is the only way to get it. Please try my shopping links at the left for some excellent suggestions.
OPTIONS: It’s hard to recommend ankle restraints for this scene, as it requires your pet to stand for the duration, but a blindfold is always a nice touch. A spanker or a paddle is a good way to get your pet’s attention. Whether you use it or not, just showing it to him will probably keep him in check. You should also consider picking up some candles, and throwing on a little music.
Now for the fun part. You have set the scene. Candles are lit, music is playing. Your man knocks on the door (as instructed in his note). Ask him who it is, and then tell him to enter.
Tell him your Domme name and make him repeat it to you.
He is not to speak until he is spoken to. (Except to say, “Yes, Miss”)
Under no circumstances is he to have an orgasm unless he asks your permission.
He should stand in front of you, so that you may inspect him.
Circle him and inspect him. If he has done well so far, reward him with a few strokes, kisses, whatever you feel he deserves…just don’t go overboard. He hasn’t done anything to deserve your attention yet. Apply the restraints (hands behind his back), blindfold, etc, and begin asking him questions. REMEMBER: You are in charge. You have what he wants. If he is going to get anything from you, he has to earn it.
What is my name? (Make him say your Domme name. Without smiling.)
What is your safe-word?
How do I look? (Make him look at you and answer until you are satisfied.)
Do you want me to touch you? (Make sure he says Ma’am, Mistress, etc.)
What do you want me to do to you? (The only correct answer is: “Whatever you want, Miss.”)
Would you like to have sex with me?
What is my name? (Answering the same question over and over is frustrating.)
Who does your body belong to?
What would you like to do to me?
After a few questions, if he behaves reasonably well, encourage him. Your goal is to teach him that obedience and cooperation earn him attention. The more he behaves, the better the reward. If you are shy about oral sex, this may be a great, safe way to try it. How you punish disobedience is up to you. If you have a spanker, use it. Otherwise, remind him that you can keep this up all night. After all, you’re not the one with their hands tied behind their back.
Make your pet answer questions (repeating questions is perfectly fine) and keep rewarding him with better and better “treats”, until he is ready to explode, or until you get bored. DO NOT LET HIM HAVE AN ORGASM! At this point you might “allow” him to drop to his knees and give you oral sex, or if you’re feeling really adventurous, you could make him watch you masturbate. All of these are options, of course, and I’d love to hear how you decide to end the scene (you can leave a comment below using the "reply" button!).
My favorite ending to this scene is to unbind my now hornier-than-usual servant boy and order him back into his clothes. He will beg and whine, but anticipation is it’s own reward.
Besides, when I do finally have sex with him, he wants me so badly that he’s usually willing to do whatever it takes to get into my pants.