Training Day - Begin Here

As always: Play safe. Domination is an exchange of trust. If you don’t have a “safe-word” then establish one immediately. Make sure that the only thing your subject has to worry about is what you are going to do to him if he disobeys. For more tips on how to play safe, click here.

PROLOGUE
This scene requires very little setup, and it’s a great excuse to pick up a few of the essentials that every good dominatrix should have on hand.

RESTRAINTS: You’ll need restraints for your pet’s wrists. Both Eden Fantasys and Hips & Curves are great sources for these items. If you are comfortable using rope, then by all means, knock yourself out. Just remember to play safe.

LUBRICANT: There is a wide assortment available in various formulations, scents and flavors. This is a matter of personal taste, so to speak, but my servant J seems to enjoy Cherry Flavored lube. It stays slick for a long time, and it tastes MUCH better than other water-based lubes. :grin:

THE NOTE: Write him a note. Nothing long and mushy, nor overly creative. Just a note telling your pet where to be, and what to be wearing…. My note for servant-J usually runs thusly: “Remove your clothes, and knock on the bedroom door. You have 5 minutes. - Mistress Blaze”. Depending on whether or not his training is corrective, or just for my amusement, I may include instructions about blindfolds or restraints or whatever. Remember: YOU ARE IN CHARGE.

COSTUME: Your pet should be wearing as little as possible. Try here for Pet Wear. You, on the other hand, should be dressed like the vixen that you are. Men are affected by visual stimulation differently from women. This scene is about showing your pet the sweet treat that he wants, and making sure that knows that obedience is the only way to get it. Please try my shopping links at the left for some excellent suggestions.

OPTIONS: It’s hard to recommend ankle restraints for this scene, as it requires your pet to stand for the duration, but a blindfold is always a nice touch. A spanker or a paddle is a good way to get your pet’s attention. Whether you use it or not, just showing it to him will probably keep him in check. You should also consider picking up some candles, and throwing on a little music.

ACTION
Now for the fun part. You have set the scene. Candles are lit, music is playing. Your man knocks on the door (as instructed in his note). Ask him who it is, and then tell him to enter.

• Tell him your Domme name and make him repeat it to you.
  
• He is not to speak until he is spoken to. (Except to say, “Yes, Miss”)
  
• Under no circumstances is he to have an orgasm unless he asks your permission.
  
• He should stand in front of you, so that you may inspect him.
  
  

• What is my name? (Make him say your Domme name. Without smiling.)
  
• What is your safe-word?
  
• How do I look? (Make him look at you and answer until you are satisfied.)
  
• Do you want me to touch you? (Make sure he says Ma’am, Mistress, etc.)
  
• What do you want me to do to you? (The only correct answer is: “Whatever you want, Miss.”)
  
• Would you like to have sex with me?
  
• What is my name? (Answering the same question over and over is frustrating.)
  
• Who does your body belong to?
  
• What would you like to do to me?

My favorite ending to this scene is to unbind my now hornier-than-usual servant boy and order him back into his clothes. He will beg and whine, but anticipation is it’s own reward.

Besides, when I do finally have sex with him, he wants me so badly that he’s usually willing to do whatever it takes to get into my pants.