i'm kinda new at being a domme. my pet just recently got me into this. i was wondering if you could help me. you see i don't have a lot of money to go shopping for an outfit for scenes but i do have this one school girl outfit with these to-die-for pair of leather boots but i'm not completely sure if it will have the same effect as if i were wearing pvc and leather. could you help?

You are the one in charge, so if you want to wear a schoolgirl outfit, that is certainly your prerogative. However, ideally a schoolgirl has more of a submissive reputation. Now, if you could somehow make it into the school mistress (like the principal) that could be something.

It really doesn't take a lot of money to invest in an "outfit" initially. Wear something you have that makes you feel sexy. It can be a dress, or a silky satin teddy nightgown, or even just your bra and panties and some pumps.

You don't have to invest in a lot of toys to get started either. There are many items right in your kitchen that make great paddles or disciplinary items!

OOoooooooooh!!! Ive got a pair of those boots and I am im LOVE with them!! sexy as! :)

I agree! These boots are divine! And because they lace up, they always fit just right! Same with the corset. Snap!

hey everyone, i'm new to the sub/dom world and i'm looking for an outfit to start off. recently i have just been wearing bra and panties and pumps, but i'm looking for something more domme. i live my parents so i can't order stuff online does anyone know of a store that sells some domme stuff? thanks so much for the help!

Mistress Elle

Mistress Elle, it depends on where you live; I have the same problem, and am a plus-size domina. I live in Vancouver, so have something to work with. Ask yourself: What makes me feel sexy? I find anything is good if you accessorise right. Myself, I'm a goth- that means jewelry and makeup- and cool belts, roses, safety pins, chains, silver, studs- I'm not big on vinyl or PVC. Leather is expensive. I rarely splurge and when I do- it's things I can wear in my everyday life. It's more the attitude than the look- the look is just a tool.

I lost 90lbs last year and as a single parent of 3 kids I did NOT have money for a whole new wardrobe.

So I found a resale shop and went on their $1 days. For $120. I bought THOUSANDS of dollars worth of SEXY SEXY SEXY clothes and shoes!!!!! Black ankle length pencil skirts, and awesome black linen fishtail skirt, BEAUTIFUL SEXY shirts, heels, boots, vest, hats..... I became SUCH a clothes bitch and OMG it felt GREAT!!!

And when a friend pointed out that I wasnt the first one to wear those clothes I pointed out that the men undressing me with their eyes didnt give a SHIT!!!! ;)

Just a thought. :D