I can understand what you’re going through here, my boyfriend was in your shoes (and still is to a point) because I have also had trouble being the dominatrix he knows I can be.

It is very difficult when she’s not happy with her appearance (as I am), as being a dominatrix is really all about confidence, if you have that everything else supported by it. However, if you don’t, it’s very difficult. I would suggest starting slow as you have done, with little things such as suggesting being her “slave”, but starting very light. Bring her drinks, give her
massages, just letting her be in control over some little tasks may help to build up her confidence and not throw her in at the deep end. Perhaps helping her “plan” a scene will also
allow her to have a something to fall back on if she panics. Just a few ideas or a basic structure (although may seem a little predicable for you) may give her a sense of security.

This is how we started, as naturally I am a submissive person, and I would worry so much if I was doing it "right”, and feared about hurting him it would ruin the scene immediately. Just doing the little things, and you letting her know how much you love her for it after each one, might help
her build confidence.

It will take time as I am sure you understand, as it has done for us. The worst thing you can do is ask her to do x, y and z and if she has such confidence issues she may come to think
you want her to be something she fundamentally isn’t (in her view). However, if you slowly take care of her like a flower, she will blossom beautifully.

I hope it helps, I am sure that you will give her all the time and support she needs.

I agree so much with that comment. In her eyes, she will never be the object that you know she is. How many times have you heard a person say "What does he/she see in me?". Well it's a similar situation. To you, she is a goddess - to her, she is an average simple girl who never dreamed anyone could possibly see these qualities because they simply don't exist. Period.

Tell her to try to ACCEPT what you are saying if it's so difficult to believe - that the way you see her is not the same as the reflection in her mirror. Hopefully by doing this she can focus on your vision rather than her lack of belief.

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MsTress Athena

This sounds so much like our situation. My husband, who is not my "pet" asked me for years to be his Mistress and I dabbled in it but never really did much with it until he cheated on me and I found out about it so we talked and talked and now he is my "pet" and I give him all the punishment/rewards he needs and desires. I too was over weight and Not happy about myself and he told me I was the most Beautiful woman he knows but I never believed him until I lost 70 lbs and started liking myself and now our Dom/sub life is complete!! I am having so much fun that I am going to go Profesional and be a Dom for others! I can't wait to do this for other too! So tell your wife to get happy with her self first then the rest will fall in place! Good Luck!

This sounds so much like our situation. My husband, who is now my "pet" asked me for years to be his Mistress and I dabbled in it but never really did much with it until he cheated on me and I found out about it so we talked and talked and now he is my "pet" and I give him all the punishment/rewards he needs and desires. I too was over weight and Not happy about myself and he told me I was the most Beautiful woman he knows but I never believed him until I lost 70 lbs and started liking myself and now our Dom/sub life is complete!! I am having so much fun that I am going to go Profesional and be a Dom for others! I can't wait to do this for other too! So tell your wife to get happy with her self first then the rest will fall in place! Good Luck!