if your pet is truly submissive you shouldnt expect him to chase after you. you need to get in touch with your dominant side and let go of your indecisiveness. in real life i am very indecisive, but the second i begin a session with one of my subs i know what i have to do. you have to relish in the fact that your in control of not just what hes doing, but what hes thinking and feeling. i wouldnt recomend entering into any sort of relationship with a sub until you are fully confident in your ability to dominate them, as you both will feel unsatisfied. unless of course you are both patient enough to learn from each other.

Indecisive? Low-self esteem? Expecting the sub to make choices?

Honey, I don't think you're a natural Domme. Either you are a submissive (which is okay.) or you have suffered trauma that makes you feel like you have no right to command.

If I were you, I would try a few scenes with a professional Dom, as a sub, and then as a 'controlled' Domme. See where you are after that.

You might find that you are not a Domme at all.

OR you may find that a little guidance boosts your confidence in every way and you are ready to take care of your sub in everyway. :)

I totally agree. In real life I am very indecisive and feel not in
control..and I hate that!!! But once I get into my "role" as a
dominatrix, my inner strength and confidence just bursts out!
I love the rush of being in control so much, that I can't wait for
the day when that confident domme fully takes over my daily
life. I feel it taking over little by little as each day goes on!
My only complaint is that my boyfriend is out of state and I
don't get to domme as regularly as I would like to!

Hang in there...play the "role"..then either you will find that
role fits your skin..or not. You may be a sub at heart.
But keep this in mind..YOU domme HIM
He's probably just so crazy about you as his domme, he is just
waiting for you to tell him every little thing to do...
If you want him to ravage you....order him to!!
Trust me on this..it's even better than if he did it on his own!
:D

Hang in there. Im a Mistress in training and I have a sub who knows I am new to this and we had our 1st time together before christams 2011 during our session he pulled a switch on me where he became the dominate one, he has a bit more experience then I and I went along with it. And i hated it!! he told me I wasnt a real domme but he is still with me and knows I have this power within me and its inside of you as well. Im looking forward to see my sub again. I make him wear womans underware to work so he knows who's BOSS!!
Stop complaining about it and just do it!! his putty in your hands, own him, rule him!!
Good luck and please dont give up!! : )