Well choreboy, I think a lot of it has to do with the worlds changing views on sex - its no longer such a taboo subject.
People need to stop being so scared to admit to themselves that yes they do fantasise about things and start acting out these fantasies.

There is really nothing wrong with these fantasies when it is a consensual activity between 2 adults, there is nothing "icky, weird or gross" about a Woman wanting to have her sub blindfolded, gagged and chained up to a chair in the bedroom..... well I do not think so anyway, but Im sure I would still find many people who would - and thats were the problem lies - people need to 'let go', be honest with themselves and their partners and just do what makes them happy.

I mean, I know people who complain about their unhappy, boring sex lives but when you ask them if they have ever tried anything different in the bedroom, such as a bit of role play or a simple vibrator etc its always a "ewwww yuk" kind of reaction.

I think a lot of it also has a lot to do with a persons own natural personality. Ive always been fairly dominant in my real life persona, Ive always known what Ive wanted, been fairly strict and organised on Myself and worked hard to get what I want. I had no idea there was this whole Dom/sub relationship thing going on in the real world until I started seeing my current partner about 2 years ago.... he introduced me to it, when he first begged Me to be his Mistress I really had no idea what he was going on about haha! But now this world has been opened up to Me and Ive let myself go in it, Im loving it! Cant get enough!

Let go people, loosen up and satisfy those innermost desires!

Thank you, TeaseQueen, for helping me understand. So for you, being a take-charge person in "real" life made taking charge of a man pleasurable and satisfying? (Actually you make that part sound very real, too!) I wonder if it works the other way around - women getting into domming at home finding their authority and power outside of the house?

I think because I know that My sub loves a dominant Woman makes Me more confident and dominant around him because I know he gets enjoyment out of it, as do I. And he encourages My dominance of him.

Because I know he gets enjoyment from it I am a lot more comfortable being "in charge" around him than I am with other people... I know I can do basically whatever I want with him, he is open to just about anything, so any shyness or self doubt gets left at the front door!!

To answer your question choreboy, I feel that domming My sub has given Me even more confidence to be dominant both in the bedroom and in real life. I love the rush and the excitement I get out of it. So I would think that most Women who are only domming in the home would naturally find a more "take charge" attitude outside the home.

My sub and I are definitely in a different dynamic of relationship to other vanilla couples! He is and has been long head of his world both business and family but he clearly needed a strong, sexy Dom to really show him who's boss and let go.....we are sharing more fantasies together than I EVER thought possible. Best of all what we do in and out of the chamber has without doubt given me more confidence than ever before and the connection I have with my sub is incredible. I was somewhat nervous entering this world, not least as he is older and experienced than I am but we have found a brilliant way to REALLY explore a powerful life changing relationship. Out of the chamber I dress more powerfully and I can see the reaction of many wannabe subs. Women all should embrace the fact that MANY men really want US to take control and charge, remember it's also the ultimate compliment to us Doms as an all powerful successful guy is kneeling before me worshipping all I am and do for him!!!
FemDom is embracing 2 people's shared fantasies, my own sub and I now have 4 things we WILL do together which will take us into a NEW level of connection and there IS nothing like being a Dom with such a sexy, well endowed sub!!

Thanks, mistresses, for your perspectives. I hope your enthusiasm is contagious!