My Sub is remote from me due to present circumstances- however a dom must think on her feet and although he is NOT as communicative as his dom he does now show more obedience via daily training regime updates both tx and emails. I have to trust my sub as after all he has given all his trust when we share punishment and pleasure together. Part of being a dom is mentally manipulating and controlling our subs so you must trust him but why not ask him to tell you which of his old mistresses and doms he has been in comm with and offer 5 lashes of your whip or some other form of punishment, My own sub now reports when he has ANY comm with another wannabe dom and if he has dare dventure/ advance towards such advances he has been punished accordingly. I have to trust my sub as I have given my total dom power and sexuality to him alone- he must start to show he is exclusively mine so if you demand that your own sub is honest and open you WILL get to see his texts.....
I continue to press my sub to comm and ensure that he is being obedient but I do KNOW he wishes to serve me as he should with ALL he has to offer! Enforce yourself and he will obey. My x dressing sub now send pictures of him in all his new gifts which his amazing dom has purchased for him in return for his committment to being my one and only sub for life...communication and trust are at centre of it!

I think Mistress Tease's sub is on site.

This first thing to remember is D/s relationships can be fun. I think the first thing to try would be weaving it into a scenario (unless your in a 24/7 relationship...those can be tough). Have a confession and if has broken the rules then take out the scary stuff (like a really thick leather strap) and take a few "home run" swings with that until he begs for forgiveness (I bet 4).

He may be a masturbator so consider a chastity device (try this one http://www.cb-2000.com/cb6000.html)

My slaves employment is fly in fly out. and it is very difficult to dominate via text and email when he is so far away, however we manage quite well at it ... when he gets home though I always make him strip and I inspect him, think I'll start incorporating a question into this session as to whether he has had any contact with the other Mistresses whilst he has been away and see what sort of response I get - he needs to start opening up to Me more.

And yes slave wayne we have both discussed on many occaisions the purchase of a cb6000 for him... it was initially his idea, and Im keen for it also! think it will make for a lot of fun.